MOH's father just died

megan8290

Just died of a heart attack. I have no idea what to do.Going to go see her tonight as soon as the car frees up for me to use.

Update: Thank you for the prayers. I know I had another thread going on the Etiquette board because I was genuinely freaking out. We are not cancelling the wedding and I told MOH I'm not expecting her to come back. We are going to go all according to plan and one of my BMs very sweetly called and told me that she'd be happy to take over any of MOH's tasks. We are going to try to get MOH's money back from her reservations for my bachelorette party next week. 

This event really shook me. It doesn't even matter if my dress doesn't fit right, if there's no one really at the wedding...etc. It doesn't matter. It's the people around you that matters. 

RichNicci4211122

T & P with her.  That's so terrible.  Just be a supportive friend during this difficult time.

kap617

What awful news--I am so sorry.  Please accept my deepest condolences.  You, your MOH, and her family will be in my thoughts.

megan8290

Just got off the phone with my FI, he said he wants to call off the whole thing.

[Deleted User]

It is very unfortunate the entire situation. Just be with her and comfort her. As for calling off the wedding you have been planning this for probably a while now I am sure your MOH would not want that. 

rungirl12

I agree that I doubt your MOH would want you to call off your wedding.  Just be there for her and let her do whatever she wants on your wedding day whether that is attend or not, or come for a bit as a guest.  So sorry to hear this.

LibbyC730

Prayers are with your MOH and her family. 

maggiebeth29

I'm so sorry! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your MOH at this time!

ohnoitskaroljo

Don't call off the wedding - but do be there for your friend in this rough time and let her know that she can drop out of the wedding if need be. Surely someone else can be a witness on your marriage certificate and youcan have a special memory candle for her father at the wedding. my prayers go out to everyone touched by his passing. 

unicorntrees

Omg I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine. I don't think you should call off your wedding, but you and your FI can decide what's best. Just be there for your MOH. My condolences!

m tulli

I think if you called off your wedding she would feel horrible on top Of the greif she already feels. I wouldn't mention the wedding. Left her do what she needs. If she wants to show up or back out just support her. Right now just be there for her. I'm sure the next several days will be very hard for her family.

leamide

I'm sure she would not want you to postpone your wedding. Just be there for her during this difficult time. 

My MOH's gramother passed away 2 weeks ago, it was very hard for her. I was there for her when she needed me. 

We had plans on doing wedding stuff together, but I knew she needed to be with you family, so I didn't mind and understood where she had to be. I continued to work on the wedding stuff without her. When she was feeling up to it after awhile, she came to help me out. I think it helped her get her mind on other things besides her loss. 

Just be understanding with her over the next few weeks, she may want to just right in to help you with the last minutes things or she may just want to take it easy, either way be understanding and there for her when she needs it most.

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_mohs-father-just-died?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:3ee5ff23-d7bc-407a-b1f0-dae8f4922c10Post:0884a0fe-57c6-4f2b-9b20-c4604f7e8439">Re:MOH's father just died</a>:
[QUOTE]I think if you called off your wedding she would feel horrible on top Of the greif she already feels. I wouldn't mention the wedding. Left her do what she needs. If she wants to show up or back out just support her. Right now just be there for her. I'm sure the next several days will be very hard for her family.
Posted by m tulli[/QUOTE]

Agree with this.  I wouldn't want my friend to call off her wedding for me, I would just feel even worse.

20pearls16

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_mohs-father-just-died?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:3ee5ff23-d7bc-407a-b1f0-dae8f4922c10Post:0884a0fe-57c6-4f2b-9b20-c4604f7e8439">Re:MOH's father just died</a>:
[QUOTE]I think if you called off your wedding she would feel horrible on top Of the greif she already feels. I wouldn't mention the wedding. Left her do what she needs. If she wants to show up or back out just support her. Right now just be there for her. I'm sure the next several days will be very hard for her family.
Posted by m tulli[/QUOTE]

Agreed. Sending prayers your way.

colstj1

Thoughts and prayers with her, her family and you through this time!