Shower invites ???

leamide

So my BM that is planning our shower asked me today why I only invited XX number of people to my shower and not the whole wedding invite list. I only asked to invite my really close friends, families, and our aunts and uncles. I didn't understand why she would want the everyone who was invited to the wedding to be invited to the bridal shower?

mercy4

She probably doesn't know better or has seen it done many ways.  Just say thanks, but these are the people I want to invite to such an intimate affair.

ohnoitskaroljo

Yeah I didn't invite all of FI's out of town relatives. I only invited those who live locally and only a few from FI's side since most of them are OOT. I wanted it small so we could just have it at my MoH's house instead of making her rent some place to hold all those guests! And I don't handle getting gifts all that well, so the smaller, the better. lol.

rungirl12

It's very typical in my family for the shower to have every female guest invited, so perhaps your friend comes from a family like mine.  More recently, as friends have started getting married, I have seen this isn't always the case and was taken aback at a shower I went to that was about 15 people.  Strange to me, but sounds like the norm to you!

Ajoyd

I have also seen people post about all of the female wedding guests being invited to the shower, so while I think it may be the norm in some areas/families it is definitely your choice. I did not invite everyone, just close friends and family. I also did not invite some of the OOT guests who I knew wouldn't be able to make it.