Am I alone?

nessaalwayz

So please tell me I am not the only one who will be happy when this wedding is over...

I never did believe all the hype about wedding planning being stressful or frustrating, or anyone behaving like they do on Bridezillas - you know, I thought that was just for TV.

But today I had a little meltdown because I feel like I do so much for other people and no one wants to do anything for me. I know that sounds very selfish, but apparently everyone has issues with every decision I make about the wedding, and of course I'm too nice to just tell them to eff off cuz it's my wedding... The last straw was this morning when I asked my Maid of Honor to verify that her & my Matron will be making a "duet" toast, because I needed to let the DJ know. Apparently, my best friend of 10 yrs doesn't want to make a toast because she's too shy (which she definitely is not - easily embarrassed, yes, but definitely not shy!) - so it kinda upset me because I've told her how much I want one of them to make a toast, so it's not just the Best Man (who is FIs friend, and not that close to me). 

Then FI took me out to dinner cuz I told him I had a horrible day - which was great until he said "I appreciate everything you've done for this wedding, babe - And all the stuff I've done too"... I'm sorry, but what kind of appreciation is that to me that you're appreciating yourself (when we ALL know I have done about 95% of the wedding related tasks). 

I've also had issues with friends who can't even answer me to let me know that they've gotten the invite (I followed up with important people because we found out a few got lost in the mail) - it's a yes or no question - is it really that hard to respond to a text, or a facebook message "yes" or "no". Uh the frustration! 

Anyway I'm just looking forward to the Honeymoon right now - doing nothing but relaxing! We definitely need a vacation after all these months of wedding planning! 

katehar01

I'm an August 12th bride, too, and I never thought I'd get stressed about planning, but I know where you're coming from!  I can definitely feel myself starting to snap at people (FI, especially, haha) and I have to remind myself to take a deep breath a few times a day....yoga helps, too, haha.
I would try to be understanding about your MOH - that's disappointing, but you don't want her giving a speech if she's not comfortable, KWIM?
Let you FI know if you need more help - it's his wedding, too!  And just remember in 30 days (eeek) you'll be married, and it will all pay off!  Pretty soon we'll be sitting on the beach drinking cocktails:)

RichNicci4211122

I feel your pain, I'm an August 10th bride and I really feel like just canceling the entire thing and going to the court house.  I am so over the whole wedding planning process that I feel myself getting more and more depressed, and I thought this was supposed to be a happy and fun time.  I lost both my MOH and my Best Man because they decided that a month before the wedding and when we need them the most they are getting a divorce and can't be in the wedding.  OK fine.  My veil which was ordered at the end of January still doesn't have a ship date, one of the BM's dresses didn't fit and had to be reordered and won't be in until the week before the wedding (hopefully), unexpected family expenses have made me have to make more concessions for the wedding with just a few weeks to go.  And I am supposed to go for my 1st fitting tomorrow (which the bridal shop didn't want to schedule until the week before the wedding and I insisted on an earlier one) and I'm terrified that there will be $400 in alterations that need to be done to my dress.  I'm sure that some of this is just pre-wedding jitters, but I am with you I can't wait till it's over and on our honeymoon.

LibbyC730

RichNicci...I remember reading your post a while back, but never had read what the final decision was.  Very sorry to hear your MOH and BM will not be in your party. 

Nessaalwayz...Bridezilla's always cracks me up (and makes me feel better about my procrastination!) because the bride's are already high strung, plus they have maybe a month's worth of work left to do in the week leading up to the wedding!  It's pretty understandable to be bummed about your MOH not giving a toast, but keep in mind that she doesn't feel comfortable and it sounds like you have a Maid of Honor who can speak for the two of them.  Try to keep focusing on the positives and yes, even show appreciation for FI, because he probably sincerely feels he's done a lot of planning!  I find my FI thinks a lot about the day, but doesn't express a lot of this, so he's put a lot more thought and effort into the wedding than I'll ever know!  I know I've had to keep this firmly in mind because I am a "prone to meltdown" type!  Good luck!

nessaalwayz

thanks guys.

thankfully the moment has passed & I'm no longer feeling the Bridezilla meltdown

nedolast2012

No you are not alone on this one! This is my second marrage, "first wedding" and i want everything perfict, and yes im about to pull my hair out! My baby just graduated high school, im selling my house of 19 yrs : , we have to have the rehersal a week and a half before the wedding cuz of high school football, my oldest is a coach and his youngest is in high school fb. Auggggg That and a week before the wedding, i have to drop my baby off at college. : very very sad day for me. Im wishing to fast forward, tho i keep on thinking it really doesnt matter, what matters is that i have never been so happy in all my life! And at the days end i will have married my best friend! :

ChristineNB

I am sorry you are feeling this way.  You can't force anyone to give a toast, if they say they are too uncomfortable speaking in front of a room full of people you have to respect that.  My FI would like my MOH (my sister) to give a toast, but I am not pushing as I know she is super shy and super socially awkward, so it may not happen.

If you are feeling so stressed and overwhelmed can you ask fiance to help out more? 

elhoekenga

I am past the point of snapping at people, I definitely went through that a few weeks ago. My stint lasted a month or so. I am at the stage of total burn out. I have no more energy to even stress now or get upset about anything right now. I am an August 4th bride, 20 days. I am ready to marry my best friend and spend a week in Aruba with him and get back to normal life!!!

mrsR12

ME TOO!!! it's just too much and FI is "stressed" but isn't really helpful which then make me even worse.