tatoos

aschinnour

Hey All,

I have a concern that I am feeling a tad bit shallow about. My wedding is in August and I have 2 bridesmaids with a lot of tattoos. My family is very anti-tatoos and I personally would never get one. They are great friends and I asked them to be Bridesmaids because I like who they are, not because of how they look. Now I'm starting to think the full sleeve tatoos will be the focal point of my wedding photos and I'm tempted to ask the photographer to photoshop the tatoos out.  Am I a horrible person? What are your thoughts?

Lauren1102

I would really ask your BMs first to see how they feel. You might be hurting their feelings by doing so since their tattoos are a part of them they might feel hurt by it. If they don't care and it's something that you would hate to look back on and seeing them then I say go for it and have the tattoos taken out!

i2012do

I would instead do some "good angling" on th ephotos so you can't see their tatoos as much. I think your friends would be insulted that you ask to photoshop them out. I think it would be kind of like asking your friend to photoshop out the birthmark on her face.

Perhaps you can give the girls pasminas- and those will cover some of the tatoos in photos.

Do they have one sleeve? So that if its on the right you can pose them sideways on the left.

Talk to your photographer about it first and see what he/she thinks

spazticrexe

You asked these girls to be in your wedding knowing full well what they look like and what your family's attitudes are. There is no way that another person's tattoos are going to be the focal point of YOUR wedding photos. Photoshopping out tattoos can actually be quite difficult, especially if they are full sleeves as you describe - you may have to pay for the extra hours (yes, hours) to do the work.

Honestly, I would let this one go. Besides, wouldn't you rather remember your wedding for what it actually was???

aschinnour

thanks girls, I appreciate your comments. I agree with all of you. I love them for who they are and those tattoos are part of who they are. I'm embarassed that I even felt that way for a moment but I think the wedding planning is bringing out the worst in me. 

mercy4

One of mine asked me if I wanted it covered, and I said it was up to her. I think she will have it airbrushed during makeup. You can offer it up but cannot force them. You picked them, tattoos, hair color, weight, skin color, etc.

calindi

I'm glad you came back and responded positively.  If it's just one side, see if the photographer can angle them on the other side to make it less visible for some of the pictures, but really it's a part of your friends.  I would certainly be insulted if my friend asked her photographer to edit the photos to make me look skinnier, or to take out a birthmark, so that's sort of how I view the tattoos.

Trust me, I'm on your side with the feeling icky about tattoos.  They aren't my thing and never will be.  My FI got one on his shoulder for the USMC and I basically cried for a week before thinking I'd never see his shoulder without the tattoo again (I know, I'm over dramatic - in my defense, it was my monthly visit from Aunt Flo).  However, I love my friends who have tattoos, and by the transitive property, I love their tattoos as part of them.  And I really do love FI's tattoo now that he has it because it's a part of him. 

Ajoyd

I completely understand those bridal moments. You've definitely made the right decision in your second post.

My FSIL has a huge shoulder tattoo that I HATE. I am not anti-tattoo at all but hers  is particularly ugly, but I told her it is her choice whether or not she wants to cover it for the wedding, I honestly don't care either way.

errah1122

completely agree w/ spazticrexe