Vows! First Draft!

jmleejohnson

Please let me know what you think of my vows to Jeremy!! Thank you so much!! 

Jeremy,

I never would have thought I could tell people, I met my husband because of his great-grandma, but here we are reading our wedding vows to one another.  790 days ago we said I love you to each other for the first time, I look forward to making that number grow daily as we age and grow together, in love.  William Shakespeare once said, “Doubt thou the stars are fire; doubt that the sun doth move; doubt truth to be a liar; but never doubt I love you. I love thee, I love but thee with a love that shall not die. Till the sun grows cold and the stars grow old.” I love you because you don’t expect me to be perfect and you never give up on what we have together. I will always remain faithful to you and our family. I promise to care for you when you’re ill, I will support your dreams and help make them realities.  I promise to comfort you when our team loses and cheer with you when our team wins. I vow to love and cherish you with everything I am, for the rest of our lives together. The best is yet to come.

 

 Sooo I don't know why they came up in different fonts... but that's ok. Thanks for any input!!

loves2shop4shoes

I'm not a big fan of the love letter "vows".  A vow is a promise...like "I promise to love you even when I want to jump out the window from smelling your gas at night."  A vow is not "I first knew I loved you 358 days ago."

Love letters are great...and can easily be exchanged in cards the morning of the wedding.  But vows should not sound like love letters.

Just my .02.

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I disagree, I think that 3/4 of that consists of vows in the "I promise" sense (from the quote onwards), the beginning bit is just introduction. I like them.

mbatzlaff

I think they are great. My vows will be partly a love letter and partly what I promise to do. I like it when vows are personal, which is a matter of taste. If it were my vows I wouldn't put a famous quote in the middle like that, I'd have someone else read it (such as the officiant or reader) at a different time or put it in the program. Again, that's just my opinion. Your vows should be meaningful to you and its ok if the rest of us don't totally agree.

rungirl12

My FI & I had a conversation about what vows are, mainly because he wanted us to write them and I had no clue where to start.  We decided that while we will be vowing/promising/pledging things to each other during the "vows" portion of the ceremony, we will also be sharing anything else we feel we want to express to one another in words.  Meaning, while I could put in the ceremony program, "words exchanged" followed by "vows," we ultimately decided that we will say what we wish to one another all at once and have our vows/promises/pledges wrapped up in there as well and just called, "vows."  

There is no right or wrong way as long as you are making some vow/promise/pledge which you clearly have the last 1/3 or so.  I am doing the same thing - expressing some points, and then ending with the actual vows.  I feel that the exchange of words at the beginning leads into why you are vowing to do what you then vow to do.  It's not for everyone which is why the traditional option is still out there, but it is perfect for those that aren't content to just read lines without saying the "why" behind the words.  It is important for us to share how we came to vow what we are vowing to one another and we feel that we want to share it with our family & friends as well (hence not writing love notes/cards).

I think your vows are personal and like your lead in.  If we are all truly in love, our FI's will appreciate our vows regardless, right?  

PeanutThomas

I agree with mbatzlaff, a famous quote is a little odd in the midst of your own words (kind of like starting a speech with "Webster's Dictionary defines 'love' as bla bla bla"), but if you really love the quote then go for it.
Your vows sound sweet and heartfelt, though. I think there will be equal parts giggles and tears from your guests.

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Have you read that outloud and timed yourself?  I know personally, if I was reading something so personal and heartfelt to my FI I would be bawling, and probably wouldn't be able to get through it all, or it would take 10 minutes because I would have to stop so much!  Just a thought...

lb1212

In Response to Re:Vows! First Draft!:[QUOTE]Have you read that outloud and timed yourself? nbsp;I know personally, if I was reading something so personal and heartfelt to my FI I would be bawling, and probably wouldn't be able to get through it all, or it would take 10 minutes because I would have to stop so much! nbsp;Just a thought... : Posted by bhomann[/QUOTE]

Great idea!

jmleejohnson

Yes, I have a few times. I am already planning on crying through the entire thing, which is why I am keeping them short, it takes me like 45 seconds to a minute to read all of that, so with crying it should be about 2 minutes or so... I can talk and cry at the same time haha. Anywho! Thanks for the input, I will probably leave the quote in there because I like the transition between the two parts. 

Other than that, thank you for all of your input. I love Jeremy more than anything in the world. More so, I trust Jeremy to never hurt me, I have never been so happy and secure in a relationship before, so I am ready for these 44 days to keep on ticking by!!!

rascal17

44 days.. thats means your a august 31st bride. Me too

Anywho.. I love your vows. I agree with loves2shop that vows shouldnt be love letters but yours starts off love lettery and turns vowy with all the promises so it works (thats how Im doing mine as well). I love the little touch about your team I think that will put a small giggle in with all the happy tears that will shed. They sound great the way they are.