Last night my FI tells me that his mom "slipped up" and asked her sister if she was coming to my bridal shower. I DIDNT EVEN KNOW SHE HAD A SISTER! How awful is that? I know that I've heard about her before, but I forgot all about it. When I was asked to go over the guestlist for my shower, I cut out almost all of FI's family because they're 99% OOT (like a few hours up north) and I do NOT do well with receiving gifts or having people dote on me. (Shoulda seen me at my baby shower, AWKWARD). I wanted to save the OOTers the money in gas and lodging so i just didn't invite them. SO I had my MoH mail out an invite to the sister first thing this morning (I haven't even met her yet!). I feel so horribly guilty. Apparently she gets her mail late regardless so my FMIL says she'll think nothing of it. Now I'm thinking I should have just invited all of FI's female family members but I just really didn't wanna burden anyone!
I REALLY wish I had just told my MoH to talk to my mom and my FMIL for advice on who to invite to the shower. I also didn't wanna put my MoH out because she would have had to book a hall for the full group of women whereas now she can just host it at her home.
I have OCD / severe anxiety and self-deprecating issues, so naturally I feel like a huge a-hole now and feel like I'll never ever live this down and that my action of cutting that guest list was unforgivable.
I wish people could look into my head and know how I'm feeling about this stuff! Cause I don't wanna disclude anyone - I just don't want to burden anyone!!! I didn't even wanna register for gifts for the wedding! LOL