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Speaking of RSVP's-No Replies, etc.

TCUESW1999TCUESW1999 member
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in Texas-Dallas and Ft. Worth
Donnaries post had me thinking. Do you contact the people who have not sent their reply card back and it is past the deadline to find out if they are coming to the wedding or not? Especially if you are having table arrangements and have a large number of guests that have NOT responded? Some ladies I know said absolutely not to contact the guests because that it is rude. And, if you decide not to contact the no reply guests, do you count them as a No or a Yes? Just curious because it looks like I am going to have this scenario.
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Re: Speaking of RSVP's-No Replies, etc.

  • shortgirltxshortgirltx
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    edited December 2011
    Those who didn't send their RSVP in will be contacted!!  It's rude to not respond as well.  I wouldn't do it before the RSVP date you stated on the card though.  Usually people cushion the RSVP date to include a few days to contact those who didn't respond.
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011
    Um, and it's NOT rude to simply not respond?  Whatever.  I sent out 2 emails to non-responders and finally had to call my cousin.  It worked too.  How the heck are you supposed to plan otherwise?I did have a partner at work not respond and I just finally put her and her husband down as a no.
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  • almoyoalmoyo member
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    edited December 2011
    Uh, yes, you contact them. Just call the people you are close to, have FI call the people he is close to, your mom can call the people she's close to, etc. It's not your fault that they didn't reply, but don't assume that means they aren't coming. I got a few "of course I'm coming! I didn't reply because you KNOW I wouldn't miss it. I thought it was a no-brainer." ...and I thought it was a no-brainer to send that card that I already self-addressed and stamped for you...
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  • maykiousmaykious member
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    edited December 2011
    I will absolutely be contacting the non-responses, particularly because I know I'll have at least a few.
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011
    My two best friends from high school didn't respond until the SECOND email.  These are educated women who are fully aware of proper etiquette and both had nice weddings themselves.  I was ready to call them out on Facebook.You won't believe what people will do.  Seriously.
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  • TCUESW1999TCUESW1999 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ok, I figured this was the case. I am all about etiquette but this issue of no replies, etc. is my biggest pet peeve. You should have seen the look on the ladies faces when I said I was going to contact the no reply guests. The horror! I actually have till this Friday as my deadline and cushioned it for a few extra days on purpose because I had a feeling this would happen, as I am sure it happens to most brides so I will contact them next week if I haven't heard back. It is very irksome when someone can't pick up a pen, put it in their hand, check the YES box or NO box, put it in a prestamped envelope and walk to the mail box and drop it in. Seriously, how hard is that?
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  • shortgirltxshortgirltx
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    edited December 2011
    Times have changed!!  And yes, it's usually the older ladies who have issues with how we are doing things now days.  "You're sending your invites when?  They should go out 1 month before the wedding!!"  It's been endless for us.  I just laugh and try to let it roll off my back, usually.
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  • Tiffany618Tiffany618
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    edited December 2011
    ...and I thought it was a no-brainer to send that card that I already self-addressed and stamped for you...That made me LOL!  I've got quite a while until I have to deal with this thank goodness!
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  • appletango85appletango85 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am really hoping that I don't have to call all these people. Or depend on someone else to call them(as I will really have no time to) but I have another week...hoping the family takes the stick out of their butt and realize that NO! I DON'T know that you are coming! Or that you have plans that day. I honestly don't care either way bc the people I care about coming are coming sooooo I just need to know so I can invite other people I want to come. Get a move on it peeps!And verbal responses to anyone BESIDES me personally, does not count either. Unless it is in written form. And if it is in written form, you could have taken the same amount of effort to make use of the stamp I provided you and stick it in the freakin mail! DUH!
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  • JessTXJessTX
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    edited December 2011
    The RSVP thing is maddening. Hello people, this isn't a keg party via evite! Send back the pre stamped envelope. Heck, we had a couple of people totally lose our invitation so that is why they said they didn't swend back the rsvp, I found it all so rude.
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