Overly excited in-law-to-bes

odustudent22

My F's sister is very excited about the wedding...and has just as many ideas....i love her help, but she doesn't know what a B U D G E T is.  Every day just about she's coming up more ways to spend money.  I hate the sad, disappointed look on her face when I have to constantly keeps saying no, we can't afford that or "I think that's an expense we can avoid".    I bought my wedding favors, now she wants to buy different/more stuff, I planned out my table decorations, now she wants to spend a ton on money on Hershey kisses in the wedding colors...any advice/suggestions to turn her down without hurting her feelings?

gymbugmj2k

be honest with her. show her the budget ledger and say "this is what we have to work with, so I Love a lot of your ideas, but we just can't make them work with the money we have".

anyone who doesn't understand that, shouldn't be helping to plan a wedding.


to 'make up' for possibly hurt feelings, you could have her help you with something that still needs to be done - like picking a font for the invitations, or making a list of photos that are 'must takes' for the photographer, etc.  That way she can be involved, but not in money-related ways

saraschilling88

I agree that you could have her help with things that aren't financial.  Also, does she have a special role in the wedding?  Maybe she is feeling left out if she doesn't..

I would just explain to her that you only have a set amount of money, and you have a vision in mind, but maybe if you have DIY projects or stuff to set up she can help you do that or decorate? 

odustudent22

thank you ladies, and yes,, she is a BM.  She is just used to getting everything she wants and not used to having to watch money.