Little details that we arn't doing

jjolovich

Well as I said in a PP its hard to not drive FI crazy with all the little details, I have leaned on my SIL about some of the details she left out. I am a giver, I like to go above and beyond for people, whether they do it in return or not. I am having a hard time leaving out some of the little touches like:

Welcome Bags(we dont have a lot of OOT guests, so its kind of pointless and from the way its sounding from my grandmother, my moms side isn't even coming)

Favors; we have custom shot glasses, but I am debating whether to have these at each place setting filled with an edibile of some sort or just having them at the bar as we are having a signature shot(vajunka, love my polish heritage!)

What are you ladies doing without for your wedding if any...

msowena

I am not doing a ton of little 'touches' that I would love to do... but those little cute things, though they add a lot, also cost a lot and I cant justify most of them (mostly to FI...I find my wedding brain can justify almost anything! lol)

Not that you asked for advice, but as far as your shot glasses go (SO cute by the way!), have you thought about the fact that if you used them for your signature shot, that the guest would then be taking them home dirty? That wouldn't be a big deal to me, but thought maybe you hadn't thought of it

ElyseE25

We aren't having a DJ, I'm just using my ipod. No cake for all, just a tiny cake for me and the groom and fudge for everyone else. No ceremony programs, no welcome bags (can't afford them) and also no corsages and bouts for grandparents, I have to many and honestly I only want to honor 2 of them by giving them a corsage and bout but they are the ones that would understand the most about not getting one. 

jjolovich

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[QUOTE]I am not doing a ton of little 'touches' that I would love to do... but those little cute things, though they add a lot,<strong> also cost a lot and I cant justify most of them (mostly to FI...I find my wedding brain can justify almost anything! lol)</strong> Not that you asked for advice, but as far as your shot glasses go (SO cute by the way!), have you thought about the fact that if you used them for your signature shot, that the guest would then be taking them home dirty? That wouldn't be a big deal to me, but thought maybe you hadn't thought of it
Posted by msowena[/QUOTE]

I am right there with you, they do unfortunatly cost alot, and I can't get Fi to go with it, even though I keep thinking well if i do them this way or maybe not add this lol!

And I did think about the shot glasses going home dirty, but we are ok with that. My SIL told me none of there guests seemed to care.

jjolovich

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[QUOTE]We aren't having a DJ, I'm just using my ipod. No cake for all, just a tiny cake for me and the groom and fudge for everyone else. No ceremony programs, no welcome bags (can't afford them) and also no corsages and bouts for grandparents, I have to many and honestly I only want to honor 2 of them by giving them a corsage and bout but they are the ones that would understand the most about not getting one. 
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We arn't doing programs either, I see them being wasted and only a select few would keep them. The DJ is important to Fi, as they are family friends. And the guy that was going to do it passed away in February, and so his son will be doing it for us, this is a huge honor for us, as Fi was really close with his dad. We are doing a cake, because a friend of mine is doing it as our gift and i am going to help her with it. And grandparents we dont have too many left, plus my grandma is doing our flowers(fake) so it fits in our budgets! :)

odustudent22

I agree that if you use the  shot glasses they will go home dirty, and not everyone drinks, or does shots,  I love the candy idea!  My favors are little silver picture frames with a butterfly in the corners, and we are printing out pictures of us and each guest after the wedding to include in the thank you card (get it...picture for the picture frame   As for the little details, all I am really doing is because it's a DIY wedding, the unity candle, ring pillow/flower basket, alter vases, guest book, and center pieces all match. (blue and silver ribbon with glittery butterflies we've punched out).  When I get the chance I'll take a picture of everything all together.

jjolovich

One reason we are doing shots, is because the majority of the people showing up do drink, and if they go home dirty they go home dirty, not that big of a deal. Wow did not think that dirty shot glasses would be such a big deal...

20pearls16

No programs, they end up in the trash. No DJ, using our IPod. No fancy center pieces. No aisle runner, we are getting married outside. No BM's or GM's. Both been married before, keeping it simple this time.

We are doing shot glasses too. I ordered mine from Etsy. I was pissed when they came yesterday and they were plastic! Now I am trying to figure out what I am going to do with them. UGH.

mbatzlaff

We aren't having a ring bearer or doing a garter toss. We are DIYing mason jar centerpieces instead of florals.

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No programs, no garter toss, no welcome bags.

mstoini

No welcome bags or programs or favors...but thinking of doing a candy bar or some sort of reception bag?  Has anyone heard of such a concept?  Most of our guests will be from out of town but think I'd prefer a reception bag instead of welcome bag/favor.  Not sure what to place in it but mainly food like candy, cookies, etc.  We will have a nice cake though.

unicorntrees

I'm not doing flowers. I'm planning on making my bouquet, and my girls are open to making their own. I'm just going to get some things together for the centerpieces, probably with some candles and such. 

Not doing an aisle runner. I also realized that I never thought about what my flower girl will be holding, if anything....

I'm also not doing videography. Photography is enough for me. We also aren't doing the traditional DJ thing. 

Oh, and I don't think I'll be doing welcome bags. All of my family is from OOT, and right now it would be too much extra stress to worry about that. Plus, I didn't even know that OOT welcome bags was a thing people did until I lurked TK, haha. 

rungirl12

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[QUOTE]..but thinking of doing a candy bar or some sort of reception bag?  Has anyone heard of such a concept? Posted by mstoini[/QUOTE]

I've been to quite a few weddings where your "favor" is just a small organza bag and you are expected to go to the candy buffet & fill it with candy.

As a guest, I would have no problem taking home a "dirty" shot glass - no worries!

I am foregoing a DJ (iPod instead), videographer, wedding planner/coordinator (that's me!), fancy dinnerware (toss out plates), a professional cake (making my own), aisle runner, unity candle, ringbearer/flower girl, real flowers (all fake bouquets), no extra boutonnieres or corsages for anyone (wedding party & my dad only), transportation for wedding party & OOT  travel bags.

Little things I am doing that perhaps others are not: bouquet toss, garter toss, ceremony programs, menus at each table, trivia questions at each table about FI & me, possible doing favors (either baking cookes & wrapping them OR M&Ms).

i2012do

I am not doing a bouquet or garter toss. All our friends are either married or engaged. I feel like the few single people there would feel embarassed.

We aren't doing a favor. I am doing flip flops ofor" dancing shoes" and I feel like that is aneough of a favor for the ladies and the men don't care...

My mom insists on having jordan almonds, but we will probably just fill a jar and leave it on the table where the cake is being served or by the bar, with some bags so people can always take that.

I'm not doing a rehearsal dinner, but instead of rehearsal "luncheon" to save a little bit of money.
And I am not doing a grooms cake. I am probbaly going to have cupcakes made with little toppers instead

LibbyC730

Tip your bartender a little extra so he can offer to rinse the glasses off for your guests!  Still not clean, clean, but it may help!  But as PPs have said, if they do go home "dirty" no one will mind.

I think I read too many bridal magazine throughout the planning process, saw a million little details that would all by neat and add to the atmosphere, but I am skipping altogether to avoid budget crisis and stress!

We are skipping videographer, bouquet/garter toss, planner/coordinator, programs (kind of, our church will print plain ones for free), welcome bags, ring bearer, menus at tables, escort/place cards, table numbers, or tangible take home favors.  I find when I go to a wedding the only time I remember to take the favor is when it's edible and already at the table!

I really like the rehearsal luncheon idea!  Let's you get some rest after rehearsal for the next day, too!

msowena

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[QUOTE]One reason we are doing shots, is because the majority of the people showing up do drink,<strong> and if they go home dirty they go home dirty, not that big of a deal. Wow did not think that dirty shot glasses would be such a big deal...</strong>
Posted by jjolovich[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Like I said in my PP...I wouldn't find it to be a big deal... nor do I think my friends or family would. However we are a laid back bunch. I have read a few things on other boards about bride's mentioning shot glasses as favors used at the wedding.... and some of the girls flipped out saying that it was gross or terrible to send them home with a dirty dish. My 2 cents, they are most likely stuck up/snobby and/or have stuck up and snobby friends and family lol I think you will be fine, especially cause you have already seen how it worked out for your SIL's wedding :)

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jjolovich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Little details that we arn't doing : Like I said in my PP...I wouldn't find it to be a big deal... nor do I think my friends or family would. However we are a laid back bunch. I have read a few things on other boards about bride's mentioning shot glasses as favors used at the wedding.... and some of the girls flipped out saying that it was gross or terrible to send them home with a dirty dish. My 2 cents, they are most likely stuck up/snobby and/or have stuck up and snobby friends and family lol I think you will be fine, especially cause you have already seen how it worked out for your SIL's wedding :)
Posted by msowena[/QUOTE]

My family is VERY laid back, it's amazing all the things that flare up people on these boards, I am doing the garter/bouquet toss. And all the "silly" wedding dances, but its because my family and friends enjoy them, and it would be weird not to do them. Yes I like honest opinions but some people just amaze me about how worked up people get over someones idea that isn't exactly etiquette savvy. Now to an extent etiquette does need to come into play, but everyone is intitled to what they like.

mrsR12

we are not having a videographer, day of coordinator

i am doing a simple program that we will print ourselves, we made a donation instead of favors and the organization gave us personalized bookmarks so that was nice; and bathroom baskets.

we are still considering: welcome bag, groom cake, menu per person vs one per table.  

jjolovich

Wow all of your lists make me realize we have cut out more, like day of planner and videographer, all the little details that I haven't even thought of because I dont see them necessary, great lists ladies!

saraschilling88

We are doing without:
Wedding Coordinator
OOT Welcome Bags (too many OOT guests)
Formal Dishes/Silverware (plastic plates and forks/knives go better with our picnic theme)
Real Flowers/Florist (we are using silk, and DIYing our flowers)
Transportation for WP (can't afford it)
Menus at each table (we are doing a buffet line)


Maybe doing:
Aisle Runner
Videographer


We are doing programs (I want to put one in a scrapbook lol, I'm a very sentimental person), bouquet/garter toss, and the "silly" dances (jjolovich my family loves them too)!!