Mother of the Groom - What to wear..

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The wedding is 8/18 and his mother has not gotten anything to wear.. back story - she is 75, doesn't go any were at all,lives with his brother and wife because of her health. NO ONE gave any thought as to what she is wearing -  and i've already looked thru her closet and the 1 thing that might be acceptable is from 1992 ( she wore it last to a funeral) Ivory with a big bow on the front ( there's a matching bow headband too)... so now I have to add " getting her a outfit and possibly paying for it too " to my list - My FI doesn't see why she cant " wear what she has" and his Sister -in-law (who is a style disaster herself) also doesn't see why the mother of the groom needs a new dress..... This is a Formal Beach Evening wedding - plated dinner and formal cocktail hour and his mother is gonna show up looking a hot a$$ mess... Not on my watch... Am I over reacting? And how do I tell his mother that I want to take her shopping w/o sounding like a Bitcz?    (PS they live all most 45 mins away- so I gotta drive there and then shop)......    

i2012do

I would offer to take her shopping. I would have fiance talk to his brother and say maybe they can go in on something together. You don't ahve to spend a ton- perhaps take her to kohls or macys for a new dress, maybe you can find something for $50 on sale...And they can split that like 25 or 30 each!
Anyway--- i think maybe you can phrase it to fiance like you'd love for his mother to look nice for the wedding as its a special event and she deserves to *feel special* too because its also a special day for her. And she should feel special and like she is dressed up and itll make her feel good- and its nice thing for her.

StephyD216

I would offer to take her shopping- treat it as a bonding time for the both of you. I agree- take her to Kohls or JCP and you can easily find something under $75! JCP even carries mother of the groom/bride dresses that are IDENTICAL to David's Bridal's!

gymbugmj2k

I agree with PP.  Either yourself or you and FI make a special day of it and go take her shopping.  Love what PP said about mentioning how special that day is for HER and that you want to make sure she feels beautiful too.  I would think that most mother-in-laws would LOVE their daughter-in-laws to care so much about them.

check retailmenot.com for coupons if you're worried about price.  Kohls ALWAYS has coupons in the mail too!

libby2483

I would offer to take her shopping, but if she doesn't want to, there isn't much you can do. Other than your wedding party, you can't really tell anyone what to wear for your wedding. If she shows up looking awful, it will reflect poorly on her not you.

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Update - My FI called his mother but he wont tell me what happened - ( we work together ) until we get home - but he did say that she said " Why didnt Aisha call me" OMG lady because i'm planing a wedding all by myself this is the 1 task that I gave your son!

LibbyC730

My mom is in a similar boat.  Due to some health issues, she isn't real mobile and doesn't have many reasons to get dressed up.  To make it a bit easier, I printed off some pictures of dresses from JCP's website and bought a couple sizes of two that she liked.  I brought them to her to try on and we found one pretty quickly!  Felt pretty silly, however, returning 3 MOB dresses! : )