Ahhh!!!!
My mom and I went to talk to our venue 2 weeks ago and when it came to the bar part we told the lady that Ryan's family is handling that part, I said that last heard they were going with the third package deal, but wasn't finalized or anything. They don't allow us to bring in our own alcohol, so the venue has 4 different package types, the first 2 are less expensive and the other 2 are a little on the more expensive side, but still reasonable.
A few days later my FMIL got mail from them letting them know how much it would come to and unfortunely I was there when she opened it! She was complaing up a storm! We have about 180 people invited and with the package that I was formed with that they were going with came to over $3,000, I know that's still a lot but nothing is finalized with it!! I kept explaining that nothing is finalized, they can change the package and the number of people would go dow, since not everyone that we invited are going to show up!
Then she said I bet the whole wedding isn't even coming to that amount! I looked at her and said yeah, the whole wedding is coming to over $7,000!!! She was making it sound like they have to pay more on the booze then what my parents are paying all together!! Then while looking at it she goes well why is the secuirty officers on my bill, I said they figured that half the reason for security is because of the drinking!!
I could of cried sitting there listening to her!! I couldn't wait to get out of there. My FFIL looked it over and said that's about right, went and got the paper with the different packages on it and said that's the one I want to choose and even said the number isn't going to be that high of people count! The asked me if a lot of people in my family drink wine and said not really and they could always make do with mix drinks and asked if we would mind if we cut out the wine all together and I said no! He was more relaxed with it!
When my FI came up he said something the reharseal dinner and she said well we'll have to think of what we can do with a bar bill like this! Now I'm worried that the reharseal is going to be the skimpy side bc she doesn't want to dish out the money for it!!
They agreed to this when we got engaged and when we went to sign the contract, his parents went as well as my parents and we all sat talking to the lady and they agreed to pay!! Our venue even said that if you want to swap around different boozes within the packages you can, like if the package has burbon and nobody drinks that they'll swap wtih something else within the same price point!
I was very horrified that she was sitting there complaing about the price and everything in front of me! I thought it was very rude, when I got home I was telling my mom about and she siad she's going to move the security officers on her bill since his mom was complaing about that too!
Sorry so long!!