August 2012 Weddings

Venting a little.....

I love my bridesmaids to death, but one of them is always complaining about having no money. I try to be understandable about her not having a lot of money and have tried to cut corners because I know she doesn't have a lot of extra cash. The problem is, she has been the one through all the planning that has wanted to go above and beyond and do the "little extras" like getting our hair and nails done, getting the "special" shoes for her dress. 
This last one "I don't have any money" has topped it all! We had planned on going to the out of town bridesmaids house for a weekend getaway and a little bacholorette party at a local free night festival. SHE was the one who wanted to go for 2 nights. I okayed it with my OOT bridesmaid and she said she could either cook us dinner or we could go to the corner deli for dinner the one night. I mentioned this to "No Money BM" and her response was, "well, I will have to see how much money I have" WTH!?!?! I'm sorry, but if you agreed to a weekend getaway (that wasn't going to cost much) & didn't have to pay for gas to get there (I'll be driving) I would at least think I would have put a few dollars away when I found out we were going (which was over a month ago!)
I'm just venting, but it really PO's me to NO end that it is all the time the excuse, of "I have no money". So, I guess I will be taking food for the weekend, just because I don't feel it is right that we show up to the OOT bridesmaids house for the weekend empty handed.
 UGH!, But, I'm gonna keep on smiling cause we only have 19 days until we say "our do's" and in the end it really won't matter!

Re: Venting a little.....

  • Unfortunately, there's no way to tell someone how to manage their finances without being incredibly rude. Some people are irresponsible with money, and don't like to admit it until it comes time to pony up. Just breathe, this is not a hill to die on.
  • That sucks. Yeah I see what you are talking about, it is very annoying. I bet she's not good with her money on other things too if she clearly wants certain things that she can't really afford.
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  • People who can't manage thier own finances are SO annoying, sorry you have to deal with that! One of my BMs is the same way-- I get that she has bills to pay (we all do..) but I asked her to be in my wedding over a year ago, let all the girls choose their own dresses, shoes, etc. and haven't asked them to get their hair or makeup done, but like your friend, she ALWAYS opts to go a little above and beyond.. for herself. She couldn't afford to come to my bachelorette and said she didn't want to spend the money on a shower AND a wedding gift so she didn't come to my shower either... I'm not upset about not getting me gifts, but at least show up and be a friend!
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