August 2012 Weddings

Haven't been on in awhile (sorry this is long and vents a little)

Hi Knotties!!  I haven't been on here in awhile (like a few weeks, it's been horrible!!) so I wanted to write a quick update!!

Some of you may remember that my FI and I had considered postponing our wedding due to financial issues.  Well we got lucky and a family member stepped in to do the photography for free (she did our engagement pics and then offered to do the wedding as her gift to us)!!  Also, his grandparents volunteered to donate and cook a pig and turkey for pulled pork and pulled turkey sandwiches at the reception, as well as make a potato salad!!  We plan to talk to other family members to see what they would consider making for food, that way we don't have to hire a caterer!! Our reception is picnic themed so we aren't looking for fancy food!!  So those 2 things took a huge worry off of our shoulders, and he got his full time job so we aren't as financially insecure as we were before!  I am still looking for a full time job but am working roughly 20hrs a week at a seasonal Target position (interview on Tuesday Dec. 27th for a dream full time job though!!)!!

Also, my FSIL's decided to throw a hissy fit because I didn't ask them to be bridesmaids!  They had made no effort to be close to me until their brother and I got engaged, now they expected to be bridesmaids just because they are his sisters!  I explained to them that my FI and I had talked about this and we chose our wedding party with people who we personally are close to (I chose mine, he chose his), but we plan on my FI escorting his sister's down the aisle before the wedding party comes in.  They liked that but still want to wear the bridesmaids dresses because that way they will feel like more of the wedding party.  My MOH and BM's are (sister- MOH, best friend since childhood (like a sister)-BM, mutual friend of FI- BM).  FI's BM and G are (mutual friend of FI and me- BM, friend of FI (who happens to be my cousin)-G, and a third who he hasn't picked yet).  My brothers are not groomsmen, one is officiating one is an usher.  I was not a bridesmaid in my brother's wedding (nor was my sister), we were sl ightly upset but felt much better when he ushered us up the aisle.  This weekend we plan to talk to them about running the guestbook, or being ushers as well, and I am going to ask them that if they want to wear bm dresses to wear black instead of red so people don't get confused.  Is that wrong??  My Mom doesn't think I should have had to ask the girls as we were never close (nor are they really close with my FI), but his Dad had told the girls (without our knowledge) that they would likely be bridesmaids (and chewed my FI out because of our decision).  Mom also talked to someone who teaches a wedding section in a class at my hs, and that lady said that what the girls did was absolutely horrifying and totally uncalled for.

We got our Save the Dates back and are handing them out this weekend, and mailing the rest in January!!  Not too much else to write about, so I will end this post!! Sorry about the vent and length of it!!

Have a Merry Christmas everyone!!  Enjoy your time with family and friends!!
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Re: Haven't been on in awhile (sorry this is long and vents a little)

  • I'm so glad things seem to be working out for you guys! Good luck with your job interview!!!

    As for the FSILs as BMs-um no lol If you are not close to them, you are not obligated to include them as part of the wedding party (even if you were close to them, you should still ask who you want!) If you were looking for more people in your wedding party, or to even out sides, then yes, I probably would have asked them before a random person, but again, nothing says you have to. In my opinion, the bride's side is her friends, family, people she grew up with, etc, and the groom's side is the same for him. Please don't feel bad about not asking them! It's you and your FI's day-don't let them put a damper on it!!

    As for the dresses, I personally would just tell them no, you don't need to match the BMs. But if you really don't care, definitely tell them to wear a different color as it would just seem strange to me to see them in dresses matching the BMs.
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  • I would not have picked the FSIL to be bridesmaids.  With my fiance, I am close to one of his sisters but not the other, so I only asked the one to be a bridesmaid.  I am expecting the other sister to ask what her role is, and I'm honestly not sure yet.  I am not planning on having ushers or a guest book person.  She is more artsy/girlie than I am so I might ask her to help with something along that line.
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  • If it were important to your FI to have his  sisters as bridesmaids that would be one thing, but since you made the decision together and are both happy with who you asked then no, you are not obligated to ask them.

    I asked my FI's sister and now I'm regretting it! She's crazy. But he asked my brother to be a GM and that was very important to me, so I guess it's only fair. Then again at least my brother is a normal, funny, laid back guy compared to his neurotic and high maintenance sister!
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  • I'd say choose people close to you.

    I am having FI's two sisters as two of my bridesmaids, but I am close to them and we get along very well.

    And also because I don't have too many close friends....so my one best friend is being my MOH and then my own sister is being the other BM.

    But don't feel obligated to have them in your bridal party! You could ask them to do a special reading at your ceremony if you feel like you still want to include them in something.
  • Thank you for your replies ladies!!  Sorry for the delayed reply to it! 

    We gave his sisters a choice of guestbook or ushers, and they haven't chosen yet lol!  Once they figure it out we will be smooth sailing with that!! :)
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