Addressing STDs for guests w/ +1s XP

BTCarolus

So, I have a couple of friends who are in weird "grey area" relationships, where they won't confirm that they're dating a specific person, but they also basically seem to be exclusively dating (and sleeping with) that specific person and have been for at least a year. We're not doing "and guest" for truly single friends, but these friends don't actually seem single. Would it be wrong to address the STD to "Jane Doe and Mike Smith," given the non-official state of the relationship and that they don't live together?  (and mailing STDs got put off for a week due to drama this week)

XPed w/ the invites board

nessaalwayz

What I did when this situation came up was addressed the STD only to the person I want invited (without the significant other) and when it comes time for the invitations, i will put on their that they have 2 seats reserved.

saraschilling88

I have a few friends who are recently in relationships, so what I did is on their STDs I just put them, and when I send invites if they are still in the relationship I will consider putting the extra person on there at that time.

ETA:  For couples who I know are in a relationship but who aren't married, I put "Jane Doe and John Smith" on the STD.  In the cases where I only knew the girls' address, I put both on the STD (the families know about the significant other, so I didn't see a problem in doing that).

VNEluvsAJB

I agree with PP only address it to the person you really want invited for now. I only say that because I had a good friend in a similar type relationship and they just split. I'm really glad I didn't put the girls name on there or I'd feel obligated to invite her. If they're still together in June when it's time for invites to go out you can reevaluate how you want to address formal invites but I'd still be cautious.

LaurenG1986

Same as the others...I only addressed my STDs to the person I was inviting. When the time comes for invites...I will decide whether or not to invite a +1.

Ballet513

I'm wondering if you even need STD's at this point? It seems kind of late in the game, why don't you just skip the expense since you will be sending your invites in another 3 months or so for an August wedding?

BTCarolus

Ballet, they were ordered and supposed to go out in February, and then my mom didn't quite have them ready to go, and then MIL made guestlist drama. UGH. So we're looking at 3 weeks of delay now (and it's letting me overthink a few of them). Also, we're getting married the last week of August, and I think invites are going out the last week of June or first week of July.

What I wound up doing is just asking the people I was confused about. Kind of awkward, but it worked.