RSVP awkardness....suggestions?

kerkma

Have any of you had this happen, and do anyone have any ideas on what to do?

I am getting RSVPs back, and I invited some of my dad's cousins that I am close with.  We have a space limit, so I only invited the couples and not their children. 

Well, I got an RSVP back that said the cousin's name, and number attending: 7.  I can only assume he meant his date, his 4 kids (who are teenage and older), and someone else as he didn't provide their names.

So, I'm unsure what to do with this.  1) We have limited space, but I'm unsure on the total number actually attending vs. invited.  2)  I didn't invite his brothers kids, so I feel like it may be awkard at the wedding if they're all there and the others think I only invited his entire family.  3)  He gave me a job in law school, and I feel weird/rude telling him his kids aren't invited. 4) If I do go that route, I don't know how to tell him, without being rude, that his kids aren't invited....

Any advice? 

kthowell

I would just simply say the invitation was for you and your wife. I would also mention the limited space

jmp2004

Ditto PP.  Just call him and apologize for the misunderstanding, that there is limited space, the invite was only for him and his wife and that you hope they can still attend.

lb1212

Regardless of how much he's helped you in the past, you're still limited on space. You FI made your guest and you need to stick to it. Call your uncle and explain that due to space limitations you are unable to extend the invite to anyone other than he and your aunt.

fergie1566

We have had this happen with both sides of our family.

I had my dad deal with my side and his mom with his.  They simply explained that the inviation was for only those it was addressed for and there was limited space

katehar01

Ditto PPs.  I wouldn't let it slide.  I know it's awkward, but it'll be more awkward at the wedding when everyone's pissed that their kids weren't invited, but your uncle's were.  Once you make one exception, you've got to make them all, KWIM?

tlal1026

I had yet to hear back from my future brother in law about attending our wedding. When I ran in to him I mentioned he had not sent back his RSVP yet, was he attending? He replied, I need to find a date first. I simply said to him, your invitation was sent to you not you and guest. He seemed fine with that

kerkma

Thank you all!!  I know that all of you are right, and I just have to make that uncomfortable call!  Happy 4th of July!

KT020803

It sucks that he is putting you in that position. If the invitation was for only the two they should be understanding that space is limited. You can't give them an entire table at your reception!