August 2012 Weddings

last invite is driving me crazy!!

So our policy was bascially this, if you have a bf/gf you have been dating for a while are engaged living together etc you get a date.Most people are local and if someone was coming from far away then we gave them a date too.

There were only a few people without dates and they were my cousins- who usually go sans dates all the time since they are close and like to hangout.

Well apparetnly last year at my other cousins wedding my uncle was really pissed that his daughter and son didint get a date and I did (i was engaged and living w fiance, she wasnt dating anoyone and my other cousin had the same policy as i did and for the record, my brother was invited solo as well--so it wasnt favortism or anything)....

So my uncle called my mom and said I "better not" do that to his kids blah blah blah
well for 3 weeks my mom has been calling my ucnle asking for my cousins' boyfriends names and my uncle keeps saying hell get them to us

i didint want to just add "and guest" to my cousins invites because they are the type that would take one of their friends or something with them- and so I wanted to add only the person that was invited to the invite. IE if you bf doesnt come, you cant just bring your flavor of the week.

Well apparently my uncle said my cousin has been dating a guy for two years, but hes not sure of his name....

well this afternoon I finally finished their invites-- to my two cousins and I didn't give either of them dates. I was literally IN THE PARKING LOT of the post office and my mom called to say that my uncle tracked down my cousins boyfriends na,e.

I went running back in the postoffie (mind u i lied and said i had to go get something for work in order to sneak out of work and its 99 degrees out so I am like all flustered) and i run in and get her invite back from the post lady that must think i am an idiot or maniac

I added his name to it, and i have the invite istting here on my desk all ready to go

and my uncle called my mom back and said that hisdaughters boyfriend was ruining the plans for the hotel and that he told her she cant bring him and to NOT address the envelope to him.
I am so annoyed.

I have 3 spare envelopes so now i have to waste one on this stupid thing that keeps ging back and forth.

edit" I also meant to say that my uncle told me not to add my other cousins boyfriend to the invite because he doesnt want his boyfriend to go (my cousin is gayt) and just called back and said now he thinks his son might be hurt so to add his bf.
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Re: last invite is driving me crazy!!

  • Wow. That is the point where you just send the d*mn thing. Your uncle is really rude. Calling up your mother and demanding that she invite certain people is extremely rude. Like, not e-board standards of rude. Rude rude. So I think you're justified in doing what you want, and not trying to placate him. Because that will just make him feel like he can be more rude and get more of what he wants.
  • Wow.  I would stop letting your uncle dictate who is invited to your wedding.   I would say mail the invite with the bf name on it. 

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  • Did you already send your uncles invite? Maybe don't... haha jk So sorry though... people are crazyyy when it comes to weddings...
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    [QUOTE]Wow. You can never catch a break. lol. I admire your hustle. I SO wouldn't put up with it. I'm impatient and irritable. haha
    Posted by mtishawt[/QUOTE]


    I feel like that too! My family is SO tough. my mom has 5 brothers and its CONSTANT competition.
    All the kids are around the same afe from 22-32 years old so its really competitive all the time over who's children are doing what! i think this has a lot to do with it.

    Today- i am sending out his sons invite and tomorrow his daughters-
    So they are getting 3 invites to their house on 3 different days- OH WELL
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: last invite is driving me crazy!! : So they are getting 3 invites to their house on 3 different days- OH WELL
    Posted by i2012do[/QUOTE]

    The post office is SO flaky these days! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
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  • AjoydAjoyd member
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    That's nuts! I felt bad not inviting my 21 year old cousin with a date but she and her serious boyfriend just broke up and I also thought she would just bring a friend. This isn't some random party it is my wedding!
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  • Lena2317Lena2317 member
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    You are completely amazing.. I think I would have completely had a bridezilla melt down if that was happening to me!!!  CHEERS to your patience girl:)  Glad we could listen and hopefully you feel better!!!
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  • I am amazed by your patience!!  I would have had a melt down probably!!  Good luck with this uncle and his kids!
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