Ok, so I have been having trouble getting one of my bridesmaids to commit to much, and we were supposed to go dress shopping this weekend. Today she calls me and explains that with both her and her husband in the wedding it is too much of a commitment since they have a fairly young child, and are worried about who will watch him during the wedding etc.. She kindly explained the situation and asked me if there was anyone I could replace her with. I told her that I understood (because I do) and am not offended or hurt (because I'm not because I get where she's coming from).
I have a sister in law who would likely step into the spot for me (she is my personal attendant and I had thought of her right away as we are close), but I know my FI has 2 sisters who would also love to be asked.. About a month ago they threw a hissy fit because they weren't in the wedding to begin with! I cleared up their hissy fit by asking them to be ushers (which they agreed to because then they could wear black dresses that are similar to the bridesmaids red ones).
My only fear now is that if I ask my sister in law, that there will be a WHOLE drama fest with my FIs sisters because they aren't asked again.. FI does have another friend who we can ask to be a 4th groomsman (or he can ask my brother), but I feel icky about doing that because we had agreed on 3 on each side when we started planning.
Another problem is if I choose my sister in law, my 3 attendants will be in 3 different states (my best friend is with me in MN, my sister is in Texas, and sister in law is in Utah). If I choose my 2 FSILs they are both in MN. This is stressful for me.. I plan on calling my Mom to ask her opinion, as well as talking to FI, just looking for suggestions on how to handle this delicate situation??
