No answer from a bridesmaid,....

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So here it is. I did the one thing I shouldn't have. In all the excitement of getting engaged over a year ago (June, 2010)...I went ahead and asked my bridesmaids.

At the time,. I wanted to include some of  FI's family so I chose to include his half sister who is around my age. I thought this was a good fit because she was engaged as well, and was around my age, and was more financiallyable to be a bridesmaid than his younger sister who is only 21.

Ok- so fast forward to August 2012. It has been over a year and I haven't heard from her since Xmas. At christmas she asked me to send an email with wedding information, hotels etc because she wanted to plan it out "early" so that she could start saving.  I sent her the email when I got back- just listing airports nearby and hotels. She never responded. I texted her "did u get my email"    her response "YES, no time to read it"

Knowing that i "pre asked" people and that situations have changed since i got engaged (2 briudesmaids are married, one bought a house, one lost her job)... I sent an email on August 20th. I said in it "i realize that i asked everyone a long time ago and I would be honored to have everyone as a bridesmaid. However,I realize that finacnial situations and time commitments have evolved over the last year. Therefore I don't want anyone to feels stressed or pressured about being in the wedding... and realize that I will not be offended if you can no longer be in the wedding party. Surely, I still want you to be a part of the day and the ceremony and you will be able to participate in other ways by doing a reading or something else. What is improtant to fiance and i is just that everyone is there to celebrate with us" .

Then I went on to talk about some details of the day, since i hadnt spoken to some girls in a few months (its been insane w fiance and i too and we just havent been around, weve been traveling so much etc so it was a nice chance to catch up)

I asked that I hear back from everyone by Sept 8th to let me know their thoughts and feelings.
Everyone got back to me but fiances half sister.

Should I consider it that she no longer wants to be in the wedidng? Why wont she answer me?!! I hate chasing her around.

Also, you have to understnad, I need to know ASAP because of the region I live in.  There are VERY few vendors in our state and it is a huge wedding area, esp for destination weddings being held. Because I have called tons of limo companies and they are alreayd booking up. and I need an absolute final count (The difference between 8 adn1 2 person limos are hundreds of dollars, and she is my 9th person). My florist needs to know the amount of people etc in order to give me accurate quotes. The dresses we like take 6 months to come in, and so i'd like to order them by Novemeber to give adequete time.

Also, besides that I can get the 12 person limo, order an extra bouquet and just give it t my mom, order the extra dress.
But to be honest. I'm more hurt that she hasn't responded to an email send 3 weeks ago. I know she has an iphone and gets email on her phone.
I think its wicked rude.
Can't she write back and say "Hey Jen, Got your email, super busy and haven't had a chance to read it, but will get back to you soon". I mean thats just profesisonal, friendly and courteous.

I'm starting to get upset. EVERY other bridesmaid responded within2  weeks.
I mean this is like CMON.

Also, its not that she has a demanding job or no time, She is on facebook playing tarrot cards all day.

Sorry to vent and be a "brideszilla" about it. but i think its inconsiderate to fiance and myself and just plain rude.
I understnad that people are raised differently and she isn't from around my area. But I'm sorry, etiquette is universal!