Music/officiant problems! (long and ventish)

id012

UGGGH!

We are having a small wedding. I found this guy on gigmasters to play the guitar/sing for the ceremony cocktail hour and dinner. Great, we talked on the phone and emailed back and forth quite a bit. He sent me the contract and then i sent him a deposit. (a pretty small one) And then thats it. I havent heard from him since. Its been like maybe almost 2 months. Iv called him, emailed him. He emailed me back once and said that he was sorry that he didnt get back to me, and his iphone feel in a pool or something. and i havent heard back from him since. I talked to gigmaster, and they were no help at all! I asked, what if he doesnt show up, and all the girl would say was, dont worry that never happeneds. 

I need to pick my music with him and give him a timeline and everything. Im really stressing about it. I dont even care about the deposit im jsut worried hes not going to show up to the wedding!

Now the officiant. I realize that i late on finding a officiant, (we are planning the wedding in about 3.5 months). We met with one lady and i really didnt click with her at all, i felt like she was only talking to FI and barely even made eye contact with me. So i started looking again and found a lady who seemed great! We talked back and forth with email probably 15 times, pretty much had everything that we wanted set for the wedding. We had a set up a meeting with her to meet, and she emailed me that day and said she was going to be able to make it. ok fine - things come up, whatever. We set up another meeting and i e-mail her to conferm and never get a email back. The day after the meet we supposed to take place her assistant emailed me to tell me that she was in the hospital but was being released today and was fine, and asked to set up another meeting and then i never heard back. (this is like 2 weeks ago) At this point im really bummed because i really clicked with her (as much as you can over email) and it just completely fell through. 

So then i contact someone else and im supposed to have a meething with her today. I call her to comfirm and she gave me a non working phone number! Ugh. I emailed her to tell her and she said it was accidenet and gave me a real number, But I had to cancel because I had already canceled on our sitter. And its a PITA becasue we have to meet her like 40 mins away from home. UGH! 

I feel like im getting played!

And im really getting freaking nervous that Im not going to find an officiant to actually marry us!!!

Sorry that this got so long, i really need to get all that fustration out. If you made it this far you get a drink!

libby2483

Wow, I would be pretty frustrated if I were you. Depending on the laws in your state, would you consider having a friend or family get ordained to marry you?

RichNicci4211122

Like PP said depending on the laws in your state maybe you could call the courthouse where you got your marriage license and they can give you a list of local officiants that can marry you. At least then you know that they are going to show up and will be professional.  I am having a similar problem with ours too.  FI and I met with him back in February and he was great.  Spent a lot of time with him dicussing what we wanted and what we didn't want.  This was something FI finally put his opinion in for... LOL  And I haven't heard from him since.  I called him a few weeks ago and asked if he had a ceremony for us to approve and he said that he will let us know when it's done.  Still haven't heard from him.  Now I'm starting to get nervous as well.  I might be looking at the court house as well.  Good luck!!!

ChristineNB

I think you need a Plan B for music in the event your musician doesn't come through, even if Plan B is just an iPod or laptop or something, since I'm assuming his deposit used up some of your money budgeted for music.

Find out if any of your guests are able to officate, and if not, see if someone would be willing.  Unless of course your state allows Quaker Marriages where you don't need an officiant.