venting a bit

rsaleh84

So I'm in my friend's wedding this August, and I am so excited to share her day with her.  I've known her since I was 17, so about 9 1/2 years or so.  Her bridal party is a mixture of old and new friends, as well as her little cousin and her sister. 

Last night all us bridesmaids were supposed to meet up to hash out the details of her bridal shower next Saturday, and after the messages were sent out by the MOH, everyone said they would be there.  And then, 30 minutes before dinner 3 canceled, including her sister!  WTF?!  They've been doing this on and off since we were all asked to be a part of her wedding, and it's driving me crazy!  She asked these ladies for a reason, because she wanted them there with her, but all they've done is show her through their actions that they can't be bothered! 

Sorry, just a little venting...I know it's not really my problem, but she's a great friend of mine, and I hate to see this happen.

AshJohnson30

Yea I understand your frustration. It's annoying when people say one thing but don't follow through. Maybe you guys should talk to the 3 and ask how interested they are in helping. Maybe unexpected things have come up in their lives and they can't commit the time. As long as they show up to the wedding I'm sure your friend will be happy. Try not to let them bother you though!! :-)

rsaleh84

I know...you're right.  I don't think talking to them will help matters much...plus it's almost wedding time and it's best to just not mention it and eliminate any drama on the day of, especially since it's a bit petty.  Thanks for hearing me out tho!  It felt good to get it off my chest!

niquemel

Yeah, that's weird that they'd cancel so last minute. Just make the decisions without them and keep moving along.
FYI: one of my bridesmaids wasn't doing squat until this week: BAM! she's suddenly become Miss Helpful, so you never know.

rsaleh84

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_venting-a-bit?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:1278ae84-5983-40cf-a119-ca3e8ee4ba99Post:675104fb-c67e-4d9d-bf6e-31f76893469b">Re: venting a bit</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, that's weird that they'd cancel so last minute. <strong>Just make the decisions without them and keep moving along</strong>. FYI: one of my bridesmaids wasn't doing squat until this week: BAM! she's suddenly become Miss Helpful, so you never know.
Posted by niquemel[/QUOTE]

Yeah we pretty much did!  Made a list of all we need, decided what we could each bring, and delegated the rest to them.  They'll be getting an email today with everything including their "assignements"...I just hope they don't back out of that as well, oh I'll throw down lol <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

kristi&johnny

Sounds like your friend has a bridal party about like mine! It really is a chore to have to sit there and try to get all of your party to want to do things or reply when you try to make any plans. I had my own cousin give me every excuse in the book every part of the way thus far from cost of her dress, to her husband works out of town, to her 1 year old daughter will have to participate in EVERYTHING or she can't come. Needless to say she is no longer in the wedding, it is somehow my fault and I could care less. I hope she gets the support she needs from all of her party, if it does continue I would have to say something on her behalf or stop trying to include them in anything.

professorscience

I really had pretty limited expectations for my WP.  Of my girls, only one lived in Dallas.  It was pretty stressful for my MOH, because I think she felt like coordinating anything with all of them was a little like herding cats, but in the end I really didn't care about showers and parties.  I cared that my best friends were there for my wedding.

rsaleh84

kristi:  The most surprising thing for me is the way her sister is acting.  She is offering to pay for all of us to get our makeup done for the wedding, which was an AMAZING gift to her sister.  And we really haven't asked much of her in terms of financial responsibilites, but she doesn't even want to be around for any functions.  We've had a couple of early happy hour/dinners to get to know each other, as well as a bridal dress shopping day, and she hasnt been to any of them.  The only thing she attended was our BM dress shopping day which was last year, and she literally hated every dress (body issues, which I understand, but was very annoying to deal with at the time)

professor:  My friend has been great about being laid back and low key with us. No demands, just giving us the basics of what she'd like and letting us take control.  Definitely a great bride!  That's part of the reason why it makes me so mad that they'd be this way, you know? 

professorscience

Yeah, I get what you're saying.  If you commit to something, do it!  Don't be lame and back out at the last second.

rsaleh84

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_venting-a-bit?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:1278ae84-5983-40cf-a119-ca3e8ee4ba99Post:2f4269c3-48e0-4f08-b6f3-3b55305fba7c">Re: venting a bit</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeah, I get what you're saying.  If you commit to something, do it!  Don't be lame and back out at the last second.
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]

EXACTLY!  Oh well, their loss...we've had a TON of fun everytime we've met up.