Doubts

kidlets2

Anyone else doubting their plans for their wedding? My shower was yesterday and after everyone left I felt like what I have planned won't be good enough, or people won't be comfortable, or the weather will suck...on and on and on.

Is it just me?

ski2play

No worries, it will be beautiful. 

LADY324

what kind of a wedding are you having?  No I don't have any doubts that our wedding is going to be the best!

pillsburyaj

I kinda wish we had just done a DW with immediate family and had a huge party when we got back.

sherrycox

My only doubt with my plans for my wedding this far is my idea for my wedding cake....lol.  I saw this humerous cake of a plane crash, however I want to change it to a train wreck.  I just worry that it might offend people.  My fiance and I think it is absolutely hillarious.  So not sure there.  What about your plans has you doubting?  My theory is this, it is your wedding, it should be the wedding of your dreams not others.

Sherry

mbody

What specific things are you having doubts about? Why don't you think your guests will be comfortable? We might be able to offer suggestions. But, don't even give another .2 seconds worrying about the weather, you have no control over that.

toomanychoices17

I'm worried about this too!  A million little things could go wrong and I've never planned a dinner party for even 8 people, let alone 200. I'm feel better about it when I'm as organized as possible, and after meeting with my vendors.  They make me feel reassured that they've done this a bunch of times and know how to make everything flow.  What exactly are you worried about?

kidlets2

It's a very casual picnic theme. Both the ceremony & reception are at the same park at 1:30.

I know it's taboo on TK but we are not having chairs for the ceremony. We're not walking down an aisle, not having attendents, it will be super short & simple. The reception will be cold cuts & salads with bottled water and cans of pop. No dance, no speeches, just a few hours outdoors (in hopefully nice weather) eating, visiting, and playing yard games - bocce ball, ladder golf, kickball, etc. For dessert we're having an ice cream truck come for guests to chose their ice cream treats.

Also tacky in some eyes is that on the invitations we've asked every one to dress casually and bring lawn chairs. We mentioned that a picnic and games are following the ceremony as well.

I'm just worried that we're going too tacky and casual. It's a fairly small affair - 58 are invited and I'm expecting 50 to show. Everyone who is invited is close family & friends. They will know that neither one of us likes being the center of attention and will hopefully get that this is what both of us wants.

pillsburyaj

If it's your closest friends and family then I am sure they understand why you opted for a casual and non-traditional wedding. I would not worry about it. Ultimately it is about the joining of two people. 

butterflyjumper1

I think non-traditional weddings that fit the personalities and lives of the bride and groom are fabulous! and I am sure people will love how customized the day is and how well it suits you and your fiance.

That being said, I don't know what I would do if I received an invitation to a wedding that asked me to bring my own chair.  Is there a reason you couldn't rent chairs for your guests? That is the only part of your plans that confuses me. Even if you want the vibe to be casual, you could have brought in chairs that go along with your theme.

Oh, and while I agree that you shouldn't dictate what guests wore - if I was invited to an outdoor, picnic-style wedding, I would still wear a sundress and wedges. Will your guests be aware of the games that they will be expected to play so that they can dress accordingly?

mbody

Nothing is wrong with your plans, other than the chair situation, in my opinion. Honestly, if you're worried about the comfort of your guests, I think you should provide seating. You should also provide some sort of shelter from the sun for guests. Maybe a tent or a couple umbrellas.

Now, I understand why you're worried about the weather. Do you have any sort of back up plan in case it's storming?

kidlets2

The park does have a few covered pavillions that are included in my rental so there will be shade. Plus there's afew large trees that will help as well.

I'm sure I can rent some chairs but if guests will be sitting in them most of the afternoon, I was thinking that lawn chairs would be more comfortable then plastic or folding chairs.

I'm relying on word of mouth as to what type of games we'll have available. 50 sounds like a lot but 99% of my guest list has a few kids. I'm sending out 17 invitations to 58 people.

No back up plan.

LADY324

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[QUOTE]The park does have a few covered pavillions that are included in my rental so there will be shade. Plus there's afew large trees that will help as well. I'm sure I can rent some chairs but if guests will be sitting in them most of the afternoon, I was thinking that lawn chairs would be more comfortable then plastic or folding chairs. I'm relying on word of mouth as to what type of games we'll have available. 50 sounds like a lot but 99% of my guest list has a few kids. I'm sending out 17 invitations to 58 people. No back up plan.
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You should really have a concrete back up plan.  Suppose it is very windy and rainy those pavillions are not going to shelter everyone if the rain is blowing in sideways. 

Melissa.hylton

I have started stressing over the weather. Here in Northern CA it can get VERY HOT! Last year on my wedding day it was 86 but year prior was 97 and then I read an article that the summer temps this year will be higher then average. Average is around 94-95. We are having an outdoor wedding and reception in an awkwardly shapped backyard so we cant just tent everything. We have looked at other options and are going to have to wait and see what the week of the wedding weather looks like to determine what we are going to do to solve the heat problem. As for decor etc I dont care what people think. Ive worked very hard to have the wedding the way I want it! They can kiss it !

Melissa.hylton

I have started stressing over the weather. Here in Northern CA it can get VERY HOT! Last year on my wedding day it was 86 but year prior was 97 and then I read an article that the the summer temps will be higher then average. Average is around 94-95. We are having an outdoor wedding and reception in an awkwardly shapped backyard so we cant just tent everything. We have looked at other options and are going to have to wait and see what the week of the wedding weather looks like to determine what we are going to do to solve the heat problem. As for decor etc I dont care what people think. Ive worked very hard to have the wedding the way I want it! They can kiss it !

vlwayne

Sounds like a blast.