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Bridesmaid ISSUE... Please help!

bsharp3bsharp3
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I have a cousin in my wedding. Long story short, She and i arent even talking right now bc we had a huge fight and i dont feel i owe her an appology. my wedding is in four 1/2 months...

i really dont even want her in it. She already has her dress... I cant sleep over this. I even already appologized for what happened just to try to make things right (due the amount of family that will be there) and she responded with a snottie-ass text message. being that now im SUPER pissed, i will not try again.

What would you do?
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  • bsharp3bsharp3
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    edited December 2011
    I have a cousin in my wedding. Long story short, She and i arent even talking right now bc we had a huge fight and i dont feel i owe her an appology. my wedding is in four 1/2 months...

    i really dont even want her in it. She already has her dress... I cant sleep over this. I even already appologized for what happened just to try to make things right (due the amount of family that will be there) and she responded with a snottie-ass text message. being that now im SUPER pissed, i will not try again.

    What would you do?
    Love knows no limit to its endurance, no end to its trust. Love still stands when all else has fallen. Corinthians 13:7-8 Wedding Countdown Ticker
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  • cschuma2cschuma2 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would try to go above and beyond to repair the relationship.  Obviously you were close enough at one time if you asked her to be a BM.  Maybe you don't feel you owe her an apology, but do it anyway?  I would hate for a friendship to end because two people are just too stubborn to give in.  This will also be terrible at future family get togethers for the two of you and everyone else in the family.

    In the grand scheme of things, I doubt you will regret trying to fix things and have her be in the wedding.  If you don't put in the effort to fix this, you may be sorry in years to come.

    If you choose to not go this route, and kick her out of the BP... be prepared that the relationship may NEVER be repaired.  You should also repay her for any expenses so far such as the cost of the dress.  (Note: This is only if you kick her out.  If she steps down from her role, you do not need to.)

    I don't know if you intended to or not, but do not replace her with someone else in order to create even sides or anything like that.  Anyone that you ask at this point would feel like a "filler".  And let's be honest... they would be.
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  • aholtsbaholtsb member
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    edited December 2011
    cschuma2  GREAT advise!!

    Also, if possible, talk in person.  Your message gets lost in translation when they are done through email, text message, or even over the phone.
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  • bsharp3bsharp3
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    edited December 2011

    Thank you.

    Love knows no limit to its endurance, no end to its trust. Love still stands when all else has fallen. Corinthians 13:7-8 Wedding Countdown Ticker
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