Hi ladies I usually just lurk here but I have to get this off my chest! I am from Toledo, my Fi is from Cleveland. We are getting married in Marblehead and having the reception in Sandusky at Lyman Harbor. Last January we were transferred to South Florida so I am planning from here. Now that you have the background story ok here we go.
My FMIL is what we would consider alittle hard to swallow at times, but we do have an "alright" relationship. She called me last Saturday to let me know that she thinks traffic is going to be to bad in Sandusky next year so she went ahead and put in a call to another reception site in Catawba and they would be paying the difference. All of this with NO discussion, not asking or bringing it up but just letting me know that she would be changing Fi's and I day completely. I of course was put off and let her know that all deposits had already been paid and that the invites are being printed as we speak. She wasn't taking NO for an answer or atleast without a fight. So after about an hour long discussion I finally just said "FI and I are paying for the wedding, Lyman is special to us because we spent much of our time dating there, and there is a special line that MIL's shouldn't cross and I considered that line crossed". I felt alittle rude but there was no way I was letting her change our day.
Finally the conversation ends with this "well I think you should consider CIC (which is one of their yacht clubs) and we said we would pay the difference so I don't see the problem, I think you're turning into a bit of a bridezilla, oh and don't tell FI about this conversation I don't want him to think we aren't getting along"
I almost had a stroke at that last part, she honestly wants me to not tell my FI that his mom is trying to change our reception site and being totally passive aggressive!!! Of course I did tell Fi and he was angry but I made him promise not to tell his mom. Oh boy I can't believe this is already happening a year before the big day!!!!! Sorry for the lengthy message
