Flower Girl

tam427

What is a good age for a flower girl? FSIL has "hinted" that her daughter serve as the flower girl at our wedding but she will have only just turned 2. While she would be adorable, I don't know how well that would work. On the other hand, my cousin from out of town's daughter also would be a good fit, and she's already told my cousin how good a flower girl she would be. She will be 5 1/2 at the time of the wedding so I would be more confident using her. However, I only see them about once a year and therefore we are not super close. Any thoughts? Did you have a flower girl? If not, did you do anything instead? Would you recommend it?

fallbride1109

2 is too young.  Period.  I see all sorts of disaster with that.  5 is a great age I think.

We didn't have a RB or FG--but we also had an adults-only wedding.

NMac2010

2 is too young in my opinion, I agree with Stephie. That would be trouble waiting to happen.

5 is a good age. Our flower girl is 7.

seujoanne

Could you have two flower girls and the older helps with the younger?  My sister and I were flower girls both at a young age and were helped by the bridesmaids.  I know my sister was still in diapers!

bridgetlb

have someone hole the 2 year old. if she gets fussy, then just don't have her go.

bsn1752

2 is way too young!  It's so hard to get them to pay attention at any age... let alone 2.    My daughter will be 4 and I'm sure it's going to difficult.

serlace

I agree that 2 is too young - unless you have an older FG with her like PP said.  Our flower girl is 4.  We will see how that works out. 

NMac2010

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[QUOTE]have someone hole the 2 year old. if she gets fussy, then just don't have her go.
Posted by bridgetlb[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't even chance it. Because then you've paid for a FG dress for someone who won't even be in the wedding. Seems like a waste to me. And if you're not paying for the dress, her mother, or someone will be.

Donnaaries

You might cause drama if you pick the 5 year old over the 2 year old, so I say maybe use both of them, or just forego flower girls and ring bearers completely (we didn't have either).  I had one niece and one nephew who were both about 18 months, and though the grandmother hinted at having them for RB/FG, they were too young so we just ditched the idea totally.

cherrrylll

I picked kids who were important to me regardless of their age. Our RB couldn't quite walk on his own at our wedding, so an usher just carried him down. I love that he was a part of our wedding and in the wedding party pictures and not a random child of "appropriate" age. 

SoonToBeMrsHoz

To avoid drama, I have would have both of them in the wedding. Like PP said, you can always have someone help the 2 yr old. It's also not just about the drama, I think it's great to have family members included in the wedding. Even if for some reason, she doesn't end up walking down the aisle, it still won't be a waste in my opinion because she will still be in all the formal pictures and everyone will still see her at the reception and everything.

serlace

I went to a wedding where there were 2 or 3 kids (FG/RB) and the oldest pulled the younger ones down the aisle in a wagon.  It was really cute. 

danac2010

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[QUOTE]I went to a wedding where there were 2 or 3 kids (FG/RB) and the oldest pulled the younger ones down the aisle in a wagon.  It was really cute. 
Posted by serlace[/QUOTE]

This was going to be my suggestion too!

annielouise

I say use both girls, it'd be adorable.  If the younger is too tired/crabby right beforehand, she doesn't need to walk down the aisle.  You wont burn any bridges or hurt feelings...and there's no cost to you, so why not?!

tam427

Thanks for the feedback everyone.

rcpm44

I may be late with this but I completely disagree with the thought that 2 is too young. We are having 2 FGs and both are FI's nieces. One will be 2 the day after our wedding and the other one is 6. They are sisters and the older one will be helping the younger one get down the aisle. If the 2 year old gets crabby and doesn't want to walk down the aisle then "oh well". There are greater crisis then whether or not a 2 year old will walk down the aisle!

Jay&Marissa

You could do both--we had 3. My only regret is picking my obnoxious 7 year old cous in over my three perfectly well behaved ones on the other side of the family.

BanannaP

FI's niece will be 20 months at our wedding, but I couldn't imagine not having her as a flower girl. Our other flower girl will have just turned 3. So yes, they are very young. But I have made it clear that I do not expect them to be perfectly behaved because chances are, they won't be. And whatever they end up doing will be seen as cute by everyone there. Plus the littlest one's mother is a bridesmaid, so that will help.

ETA: I voted do something else, because I think you should use both.

InfamousQBert

my mom used a 2 & 3 yr old in her wedding. the 3 yr old was fine, but she complained about the 2 yr old so often that even i got sick of it (and i wasn't even there, obviously!). one option, if you really feel like it will hurt her feelings to say no, is i've heard of someone having an older flower girl pull the little one in a wagon. if your venue allows for that, it's a possible compromise.