Shower Weirdness

NikkiF731

So this happened a while ago but with all the craziness of moving FI to our house I haven't gotten a chance to post this and am curious how you would react to this situation.

A friend of mine who has been with me through one of the roughest years of my life calls me to say she can't wait for my shower and "wouldn't miss it for the world." She also asked could I look into buses for her. I found out that she hadn't rsvp'ed to the evite correctly and asked if she could just so the bridesmaids could have an accurate count. I gave her bus info at that time too. She never acknowledged this message (even though I also facebooked her and my mom called her. She also never showed up at the shower. I've tried getting in touch with her on and off for over a month since then and she's never gotten back to me. She has however had time to post random, normal facebook status updates. Confused. How would you ladies react/handle that?

ILoveToRobot

weird. I'd be hurt but I might wonder what's going on in her life too. Do you know of any life changing events that might be happening? Sometimes facebook faces are different that real life ones. People tend to put on a happy face on there (unless they're drama freaks). Maybe try reaching out to see what's going on in her life. Keep wedding talk out of it. Make it about her and her well being. Try calling her and saying "hey I was thinking about you and I wanted to hear what's going on with you."

bridetobe71412

I agree with Robot. It sounds really strange so there has to be something going on with her!

Melissa.hylton

Maybe she thought she would be able to go and when it got down to the time and money she just didnt have it and was too embarrassed since she made a big stink about how she WOULD be there? I dont think she forgot or anything like that. Maybe she is too embarrassed to face you because she thinks you will be upset. Tell her how confused you are and that you arent upset just concerned that everything is not ok or is ok or whatever. 

toomanychoices17

I'd try to reach out to her again.  Maybe something came up and she just couldn't make it or she got too busy to RSVP and then didn't want to show without having RSVPd the appropriate way.  I'd let her know that you still want to be friends, and maybe make the trip to see her before the wedding.

BeachLover2885

I agree with PP advice. Try to reach out to her again.. maybe she's a bit flaky? Also, in general, I find some people are just weird. Not to hijack the thread, but I have a weird shower story too. One of my friends who lives out of state texted me in February and asked when my shower was going to be b/c she really wanted to come and had to buy a plane ticket. I actually wasn't thinking of inviting her (I was just planning on inviting the BP and family). Anyway, she seemed really excited about coming so of course I added her to the list. My mom sent her the invitation and it came back to her.  I texted her and she said her mail hasn't been going through to her house (weird b/c she's lived there for a few years).  My mom resends the invitation, and then gets it returned to her again. Then, my friend tells me she's having major surgery and probably won't be able to come. Um... wouldn't you have known this a few months ago? This isn't emergency surgery; it's the kind where you need a few months of consultation.  The whole thing was very strange. Then, I invited her and her boyfriend to the wedding.  I wrote his name on the invitation, and she RSVPed yes but put in guest after her name.  

NikkiF731

@Melissa and toomanychoices- these are good plans. It seems obvious now but I'd never really considered that she could be dodging me cause she's embarrassed. The visit is a good idea too. Something low-stress like a brunch or something maybe...

@BeachLover- It's all good. :-) post-sharing not hijacking.  That is random. I would've wondered what was up too. All I can think of is maybe she was nervous about the surgery and didn't want to talk about it for that reason? still though..

mekiakoo

I would be a bit bothered, but why don't you check with your friend and see if everything is okay?