FIL Issues...?

Beadlz

So I'm visiting my FIL's next week and I'm a bit worried.  They are horrible eaters, if it doesn't have mayo, oil, butter, or bacon (or all of the above) then its not worth eating.  This is always a dilemma for me since I was raised eating fish and fresh brocolli.  Anyone have a similar situation/advice on what to do?  Also, they get super offended if I don't eat all the time. 

missangela1700

I just went to visit family.  They also cook everything in butter.  When they picked me up from the train station, I asked them to take me to the grocery store so that I could buy some food that I can eat.  I very nicely explained to them why.  They were not offended.  I think if you talk to your family, they will understand.  I made sure I ate really well during breakfast and lunch by having the food that I bought.  I shared in their dinner, and was sure to make a salad for the whole family each night.  Just tell them you need to buy some different foods because you have stomach issues, they won't question you!

annakatebride

MissAngela, that's great that they took you to the grocery store! Did you  have to say you had stomach issues or just that you're trying to eat healthier, lose weight, or something else? I'm just curious. It's so frustrating that people who want to eat healthy are so often looked at for being snobby or antisocial or offensive, but the people who want to shove fat down your throat are normal. Kind of like what Bryn was saying, why is their bad eating okay and you wanting to eat well offensive? I go through this with my FILs a lot, constantly trying to convince them that fast food/fried food isn't the only option... It's hard when my only "excuse" for wanting to eat this way though is simply that I don't eat the other stuff and this is my lifestyle. This usually isn't seen as enough.

SilverSarahB

Maybe see if your F-family will go for everyone making a dish kind of meal...so you get to make sure there's at least one or two things at each meal that you can eat.  Or even that you and your fiance make them dinner or breakfast or something, and then take them out.    Or even offer to help while they're cooking, so you can add stuff in.   Another thought is to have your fiance talk to them and let them know that you're worried about it and really don't want to offend them even though you are used to eating differently?  

Or, be more direct and mention that you're used to a little different diet  balance than they are and want to grab some things to have while you're there.   /scatteredbrain