Trying on clothes...

annakatebride

used to be so much worse than it is now. Even when something doesn't fit me now I don't think it's my body's fault anymore. Tim Gunn said on TV once that just because a train doesn't make a stop doesn't mean the whole station's bad. Now I feel like pants or dresses or whatever just don't make a stop for me, but I'm not crap because I don't fit in them. This is a significant change for me. Okay, just thought I'd share.

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Thats awesome annakate...I totally know how you feel, you no longer dread going shopping, you can blame the clothes instead of yourself. I also noticed that when i was gaining weight and in complete denial about it, I would go shopping and be like wow this stores jeans suck...not even trying to remember they fit me like a year ago   Denial is so sad!

annakatebride

I used to do the same thing! Denial is very powerful...

Nebb

I think it also has to be said that some stores just have clothes that dont fit people well - in ANY size. I have "favourite" stores for different articals of clothing because of how ive found things to fit. It isnt always your bum, it might just be the pants themselves!

annakatebride

Oh yes, Nebb, I agree, bad pants are bad pants no matter what. It's just that the percentage of things I blame on being cheaply made, a bad cut, poor fabric, etc is a lot lower now than it used to be.

Nebb

Ill admit, I had a HARD time finding clothes before I started losing weight - I chalked it up to bad fit and fat bum. Now that ive lost a lot of inches, im actually scared to go and have nothing fit and kill my self esteem so I just put up with horribly ill fitting (waaaaay too big) clothes rather than feel like crap.

annakatebride

It's been a gradual process for me too. I was buying a lot of sweaters, sweats, baggy things in general (it was winter) before I started losing, and only now 33 pounds, 2-3 sizes, and 8 months later do I feel this way. It started by buying things in my old size without trying them on only to find out they were too big, then slowly feeling like I could bring a smaller size into the fitting room, until now where I'm finally trying on and actually buying things that fit... it's a long sucky process, basically.

temerityjane

I'm really looking forward to enjoying trying on clothes again. I went back on Weight Watchers because I was scared of what would happen on the day I went to look at dresses.You know how you try something on, and it doesn't fit, and you try on something else, and it looks terrible, and it just keeps going like that and no matter how much you want to have a good attitude, your mood just comes crashing down?I was so afraid of that happening on the day my mom and I went to shop for my dress together - that I'd try on a bunch of things that didn't flatter me and just get really bummed out, and ruin what should be a really special day for us.The thing is, though, the train station thing is right. By the time I go dress shopping, I won't have lost all the weight I want to lose. But making the effort and dieting and exercising and losing some pounds boosts my self esteem so much that it will be that much easier to just shake off those things that don't flatter me.

brynhild

For some reason I have a thing for the Hugo Boss jeans in general and I sometimes feel like killing something (well, not literally) in order to be able to get into them faster. Now I see all these absolutely stunning clothes, not necessarily anything extremely expensive, but still something that would fit my personality perfectly and then I realize it doesn't make any sense buying them right now. *sigh* But I WILL one day.

Hwrd2be

That is a good way of looking at it.. I wish I could think of it that way but if something doesnt fit me.. I get very very discouraged.. I am working on it & hopefully wont get upset when things dont fit.. that is an awesome way of thinking about it though.