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Hostess Gifts

Jay+MarissaJay+Marissa member
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in Texas-Dallas and Ft. Worth
I have two showers coming up and two questions about hostess gifts!

--My sister/MOH and two roommates/bridesmaids are throwing me a lingerie shower this weekend. Any small gift ideas for them?

--My "big" bridal shower is next weekend. It's hosted by all of my bridesmaids, my FMIL, and my own mother, though in reality the two mothers are doing most of the work. (I know that having your mom involved is usually a no-no, but we have no other family in town and my bridesmaids are either under age 18/clueless or in college in another state and busy with their own lives--no close relatives in town either)

So technically, I have eight hostesses. My mom said don't get her a gift. (If I do, she'll rag on me for spending money)

I don't even think FMIL and her two daughters (the high school aged bridesmaids) have even heard of a hostess gift--they're still trying to figure out what happens at a shower, I swear.

My two sisters are only helping minimally, and my other two bridesmaids are pretty much hosting in name only. Do I get anyone anything? Maybe just notecards thanking them?


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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011
    Are you doing a bridal luncheon for the bridesmaids?  Because if you are, I would say get maybe just do thank you cards for the shower.  Although I don't know if the bridal luncheon technically counts as a TY gift--I had never heard of it before I came on TK.  But in your case, I think it could suffice, then just buy something for your FMIL.  But maybe someone else will say that is incorrect.

    If so, or if you're not doing a luncheon then yes, I guess technically FMIL/daughters and your sisters and BMs all get something.

    For the panty party, I say just get them each something personal. You know the whole "shop like it's their birthday" like the girls on the other boards say.

    ETA:  Ok, I think the luncheon can be the TY for the shower. 
    http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/bridal-party/articles/bridesmaids-tea-basics.aspx

    Also, here's an article (which does say a handwritten note is fine if it's in addition to their BM gift or luncheon).
    http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/bridal-party/articles/bridesmaid-gift-shopping-tips.aspx

    With your large of a group, a luncheon might be easier and also a good way to spend time with your BP--assuming you have time for it.
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  • DonnaariesDonnaaries member
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    edited December 2011
    I think a card is fine in your situation at the big shower with so many hostesses.  If you feel really awkward just giving a card, $5 giftcards to Starbucks or iTunes might be a good stuffer.

    For your lingerie shower, I'd go with Stephie's rec of getting them something more personal.  And if you can't think of anything, bath products as a thank you gift at a lingerie shower seems appropriate (and not too expensive).  Bath and Body Works is having a great sale for Mother's Day right now.
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  • Mariah09202008Mariah09202008
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    edited December 2011
    Totally agree with Donna and Stephie.
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  • emimayoremimayor
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with getting your BM's something personal for the lingerie shower. As for your FMIL, have flowers delivered as a Thank You before your shower. Flowers are always appreciated and its an easy. I would just thank your BM's with a nice card for the shower.
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  • Jay+MarissaJay+Marissa member
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    edited December 2011
    I like the idea of a bridal luncheon--but with 6 bridesmaids in 3 states, it isn't going to happen. Boo. Poor girls/moms--my birthday is next week right smack in the middle of the two showers too! (I wouldn't expect them to get me anything, but I know some probably will--my FMIL already spent probably way too much on Coach purse--I love her)

    Flowers would be good for both moms--FMIL would have to schlep them home to Houston, though. I'm not sure if that would just be a pain. I can see her really appreciating them, though.

    For the lingerie shower I think I'm going to do cards and a pair of earrings--all of them have large earring collections.

    Thanks for the ideas!
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011
    Marissa, what some girls do is have their FI's deliver the flowers at the end of the shower.  So that's a thought if you decide to go that route. 
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  • Mariah09202008Mariah09202008
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    edited December 2011
    Why don't you have flowers delivered to your FMIL's house after the shower, when she gets home.  That would be such a sweet surprise!
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  • Jay+MarissaJay+Marissa member
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    edited December 2011
    That would be good...if only I weren't poor! I might be able to find something affordable though
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  • shortgirltxshortgirltx
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    edited December 2011
    I gave the two people who were the hosts listed on the invite a bath set from Bath and Body works, my step mom her favorite type of wine and my dad some weird food items that I thought he would like and some IcyHot as a joke.  Others that helped out with this got large candles, funky socks (for my niece) and I don't know what else.
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