dress shopping anxiety

agirlcalledchuck

i've put off shopping for my dress for months, and now its down to the point where i HAVE to do it - i've put it off so much because years and years ago i was previously engaged, and the one time i went to dress shop, the consultant made many so many snarky comments about my weight and breast size (back then i was wearing a street size 6 and the dresses i were trying on were sizes 8 and 10, and i was totally fine with that until i was told i was "too fat" to look at certain gowns) that i ended up crying during most of the appointment before finally leaving. i've never liked shopping for clothes at all, but something as important as this makes the anxiety even worse, and now that in the last few years i've put on some weight, im more anxious than i've ever been about anything. I'm losing the weight, and doing a great job of it, and am very proud of myself, but im scared of having another bad experience and getting discouraged - does anyone else have dress shopping anxiety?

kagkiki11

I am sorry you had a horrible previous experience.  Dressshopping should be fun.  Go with your family and/or friendsfor support and enjoy yourself.

smallkate101

No one should ever be allowed to make someone feel bad about their size!  That happened to me when I first arrived at David's Bridal but I brought my mom, MIL, and all my girls with me and they made sure I got a different consultant that would make me feel worth while.  They all got the lady in trouble with her supervisor!  Anyway, make sure to take people with you who will not put up with someone being rude and also make sure to stick up for yourself too!!!!  Good luck, the second time around will be great!

Nebb

I dont know when your 67lb loss started and how big you were then, but a street size 6 is tiny in my mind (and if youre that small you dont need to lose near that much weight!). That being said, where the eff are you shopping for dresses that employ absolute bitchfaces like that?! The owner would have received a strongly worded complaint from me.

tinydancer842

Agreed with Nebb -- I'd B*TCH slap someone who called a size 10 fat...I mean seriously why else would they have samples in that size...oh yeah b/c a lot of women will fit into it!! That being said -- yes I had dress anxiety...but you know what most dresses can be taken in!! I ordered mine in a size 10 & I am sure it will be taken in, but that's okay. If anyone gives you cr*p about your size flip them the bird & walk out! Btw, size 6 is skinny & don't let anyone tell you differently!

agirlcalledchuck

ooh! i wish i didnt need to lose the weight!!!! i definitely didnt need to lose the weight back then - i havent been a size six in about 4 years, and that's around the time the incident took place - i had medical issues shortly after that time that made me gain weight very quickly, and even after i got over them, i just stayed lazy and continued to gain weight! i'm just now starting to lose it - right now im about a street size 12, but i've lost a pretty good chunk of weight in the last couple of months that got me to that point. honestly i was surprised by how i was treated at this store in particular - its the most raved about store in my tri-state area, and i had been there previously many times with my friends who were getting married and it was always a fun experience - i think i just got a really bad consultant, because something similar happened with friend of mine and the same consultant when she went to get fitted for a bridesmaids dress there (except, she didn't call her fat - she instead looked at her after she told her what dress she was there to be fitted for, and the consultant said "um, are you sure you can afford THAT? you know this isn't a cheap dress, right?"), and my friend complained - i also complained but i feel like it wasn't taken very seriously, because the woman i complained to looked at me and said "sweetheart, you're not fat, so i don't know why you would think she was saying something like that. this is a stressful time, and i'm sure you're just feeling insecure....blah blah blah" and basically made me feel like i was nuts! ha! i talked to a friend of mine earlier today and she was just there picking up a dress for a wedding she is in and she asked if this girl still worked there and apparently she doesn't - i wasn't going to even go there to look this time, but every designer i like, they carry, so i figure enough time has passed that i can give it another go....

Nebb

Judging by your stars, you have had fantastic progress! Do you mind sharing what you have done to achieve that? Id love to be in a size 12 right now!

agirlcalledchuck

i have been seeing a weight loss specialist for a little over 2 months - i got tired of all the yo yo dieting, so upon seeing some success from a good friend of mine, i went to check it out - for the first 4 weeks, i was on an all meal replacement liquid diet (similar to slim fast shakes - 6 times a day) and now i'm doing 3 replacements a day and one lower calorie (less than 550 calories) meal a day - the program can be altered in a few different ways, but the more structured approach was just easier for me - plus, i was doing all of this under very close Dr. supervision, so i felt okay about it - i saw the doctor once a week for the first month, and now its once every two weeks - there are different "homework" modules you have to do every week that teach you different eating habits and sort of show you why you might be eating the wrong things, etc......it's made me much more conscious to the things i put in my mouth than i ever have been before, and i've almost completely lost my sweet tooth! i drink about a gallon of water a day (seems crazy, but its just become a habit) and have cut out junk food/fast food altogether - the only thing i cant cut is my coffee, only now i just drink it black, and restrict myself to one small cup a day - i'm walking around 3 miles a day (i guess its more like a jog now), and doing some weight training every other day- plus, my job keeps me on my feet all day, so i'm kinda going non stop - it's been a great time for me to do this too because my fiance is overseas, so i only have myself to worry about right now, and im not constantly cooking or feeding him, so the temptation is cut down! the only time i have trouble is in social situations (a lot of my social interaction revolves around eating!) - for the first month i pretty much avoided getting into any kind of "food" centered activity, but now i'm better educated at how to handle it - plus, i can move my calories around and not feel guilty for going out every now and then! they have clinics like the one im going to all over the country - my dr. is at a place called the center for medical weight loss - i've been ecstatic with my success so far and would totally recommend it!

agirlcalledchuck

it was at Low's in Brinkley - we are actually thinking of heading to jackson mississippi or to a couple of places in dallas....

meganj28

I had the same feelings of dread before going to look at dresses- and believe me, I am no size 6! Reguardless of size, I think the goal of any great store is to make you feel like you are the most beautiful bride there ever way- size 6 or 66! It sounds like the store you visited has some some serious customer service issues- between you and your friend, it seems like they consider themselves a little too great to deal with "the common folk". As it turned out, all of my concern was for nothing- I had really great experiences at several different stores, including the one I ultimately bought my dress. Hopefully you'll find the same type of kind, professional salespeople that I did. Good luck! .

cececisco

I really hate that you had that terrible expereince. If you do come to Jackson, Mississippi, I live here and can tell you some good places to go. (My friends have had good expereinces there). Having said that, I haven't been myself though.  I want to lose at least 15 pounds before I even start looking. I'm a little irritated that people keep asking me if I have started trying on dresses yet. I'm like, I have several months still before the wedding and I just don't want to get frustrated shopping because I'm not happy with how I look.  I know the weight range I want to be in when I start looking and I'm not there yet.