Okay, here it is. I posted a bit about it on Snarky a while back, so if I'm reapeating myself; sorry.
My sister and I don't speak. Short version: she's in an abusive marriage, and the last time she asked me for help to get out, I did a lot to arrange stuff for her. He chased her down the highway (kids in the back of the car, btw), she eventually pulled over, they talked it out and she went back with him. Didn't bother to let any of us know where she was, and took the kids to a birthday party... When I finally tracked her down by phone (they were living 7 hours away so it wasn't easy), she told me they fixed it, and she was going to stay because SHE DIDN'T WANT TO END UP LIKE ME. (divorced)
That was the last time we spoke, three years ago.
Anywho ...
Last week mom called for a chat and asked me if I was inviting sis to the wedding. When I said I was undecided, she started to cry.
Today mom called to say she got the package I sent her. In that package was a form that my dad was supposed to fill out. I asked him if he would perform our ceremony - he is a ship's captain, but there is one piece of paperwork that he could complete to be allowed to legally perform the ceremony. He said he'd like to do it when we talked about it. Today he said it was too much paperwork and he's not willing to do it.
The icing on the cake: fb message from my sister asked if we can 'talk things out' and 'end the foolishness'.
Now I'm scrambling to find an officient because it's too much trouble for my own father to be bothered, mom's going to up the pressure to get my sister invited to the wedding, where she'll try to 'fix' everything with us, and it's taking every bit of my willpower not to put a fist through my computer screen...
And we've had almost no internet or phone for four days at home.
I'm usually a pretty levelheaded, logical kind of person, but I'm losing my cool in a major way right now.
Thanks for reading.