need help getting motivated

mhbraymer

so everytime i try to get motivated to ea healthy exercise i can do it for like 2 weeks and then i lose it andi feel like its my fi fault cause he says he will do all this stuff with me but he never does and its super hard with having a 7month.....how do you guys get motivated help please.

LionyLoo

I've been struggling getting motivated too, but mainly due to drama causing stress etc. Talked to FI about it and he said that he would love to help me, but that it's something I need to do on my own, and for myself. He can't do it for me. So, he'll wake me in the morning and ask me if I am getting up to work out, and if I say no, he just says okay. 

Motivation is hard, but try finding a workout DVD that you like, put some fun music on an iPod to listen to, and find a picture of yourself where you LOVED the way you looked and post it on your fridge. Also, don't worry too much if you skip a workout or even a full day of dieting, just start over the next day. It's no biggie. 

Good luck!! 

feinicstine

Motivation for this has to come from inside.  If you wait around for everyone else to be on the same page as you and ready to do it with you, then it's not going to happen.  You need to cook healthier foods for yourself, trust me, your FI will eat it if it's what he's given.  Mine lost some weight just when I switched to cooking all of our meals and he wasn't trying.  If your FI goes out at lunch at work and eats fast food, who cares?  That didn't affect your diet any.  Working out needs to be something that you make time for every day.  The same way you make time for meetings, appointments, and taking a shower.  There are even work outs you can do with your child, I'm serious, you use your kid for strength training and the baby thinks it's just playing.

I know, it's really hard to get going in the beginning, but no one is going to do it for you.

taylia

Hey I'm going through the same thing its hard getting motivated, but it will be ok why don't get a workout group? you and some friends. My friends and I go for walks on our lunch break almost everyday given the weather and we all help each other with our eating making sure we stay on track. I know its hard but you can do it!!!! you have the support right here if you need it

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]You need to cook healthier foods for yourself, trust me, your FI will eat it if it's what he's given. 
Posted by feinicstine[/QUOTE]

That's not always true.   I have an extremely weight-loss supportive husband, but why should he have to eat things he hates, and do without things he enjoys just because I feel fat?  Doesn't make any sense at all.

Plus, I'd be a pretty crummy wife if I thought my happiness took precendence over his.  He doesn't have to be on the diet too.

lclicious

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: need help getting motivated : That's not always true.   I have an extremely weight-loss supportive husband, but why should he have to eat things he hates, and do without things he enjoys just because I feel fat?  Doesn't make any sense at all. Plus, I'd be a pretty crummy wife if I thought my happiness took precendence over his.  He doesn't have to be on the diet too.
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

I disagree....regardless of how thin anybody is eating fast food constantly is unhealthy. I think I'd be a crummier wife if I let him eat bad food all the time. There are a million ways to recreate favorite dishes in a healthier way. Healthy food doesnt need to be bad tasting. What about chicken breast with mango salsa and brown rice? The only healhy food that is bad tasting is processed healthy food. He desnt have to be on a diet, but arent the only truly successful diets the ones that involve total lifestyle changes?

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: need help getting motivated : I disagree....regardless of how thin anybody is eating fast food constantly is unhealthy. I think I'd be a crummier wife if I let him eat bad food all the time. There are a million ways to recreate favorite dishes in a healthier way. Healthy food doesnt need to be bad tasting. What about chicken breast with mango salsa and brown rice? The only healhy food that is bad tasting is processed healthy food. He desnt have to be on a diet, but arent the only truly successful diets the ones that involve total lifestyle changes?
Posted by lclicious[/QUOTE]

Who says my husband eats fast food or food that's bad from him? 

I was referring to my diet food.  The meals i need to eat in conjunction with exercise to guarantee a constant weight loss.  And yes, some of that healthy food IS bad tasting to my husband.  Regardless of the nurtitional benefits, he's an adult and should be able to choose what he will and won't eat.

I agree that "the only truly successful diets the ones that involve total lifestyle changes".  But that's only a change for the one who wants to lose weight.  i don't understand the whole mentality that if the wife is dieting, the husband  is dieting, and so many think that's wonderful.  But if a husband tries to tell a wife she needs to lose weight and eat better, he's an asshole.  I really don't get it.

lclicious

I wasn't trying to insinuate that your husband was eating fast food and I'm sorry it came off like that. I meant it as "ones."

Why not work around what both people like-  We had tacos last night with ground chicken and homemade salsa. He chose to put sour cream on his and I didnt. When I was younger, my mom did weight watchers and a lot of the food is really good. Even my picky little brother ate it.

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]I wasn't trying to insinuate that your husband was eating fast food and I'm sorry it came off like that. I meant it as "ones." Why not work around what both people like-  We had tacos last night with ground chicken and homemade salsa. He chose to put sour cream on his and I didnt. When I was younger, my mom did weight watchers and a lot of the food is really good. Even my picky little brother ate it.
Posted by lclicious[/QUOTE]

No big deal  I didn't take it to heart.

It's just, my H's taste in food is SO different than mine.  He literally hates the following foods and products made with them.  You haven't met picky until you meet my H.

tomatoes
lettuce
spinach
onions
sandwiches
nuts
hot fruits (exception: roasted pineapple but not IN anything)
fish (except cod or tilapia fried)
beans of any variety
eggplant
squash
cold pasta
turkey burgers
(I'm sure there is a bunch more too.)

That's not even including the things he's allergic to.

LionyLoo

My FI is pretty picky too, in the sense that he's a meat and potatoes kind of guy. Totally not good if you're trying to diet. I still make all his fave foods and substitute with healthier options where I can (without drastically changing the taste).  I've switched to low-fat cheese, wholewheat pasta etc. and he hasn't even noticed. Ha!  

I focus on eating healthier throughout the day and at dinner I'll have pasta if I want, but a much smaller portion. Or I'll skip the potatoes and just eat meat and veggies.

mhbraymer

thanks to all of you for the tips....

today i was messing around on my FI xbox cause he got me a dancing game for the kinect and i never knew there was a workout mode on there that plus eating better today and chasing around my almost 7 month old who is crawling. im feeling like i can do this and already feeling better about myself.


s thank you again all soooo much.

feinicstine

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: need help getting motivated : That's not always true.   I have an extremely weight-loss supportive husband, but why should he have to eat things he hates, and do without things he enjoys just because I feel fat?  Doesn't make any sense at all. Plus, I'd be a pretty crummy wife if I thought my happiness took precendence over his.  He doesn't have to be on the diet too.
Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]

I'd be a pretty unhappy person if I were on a diet!  I'm not trying to lose weight.  I just switched to making things like whole wheat pasta and cooking more stuff for us rather than going with the prepackaged.  These are things no sane human being would complain about.  My FI is pretty picky about certain things, but he's not going to throw a fit if I use the "no salt added" green beans.

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: need help getting motivated : I'd be a pretty unhappy person if I were on a diet!  I'm not trying to lose weight.  I just switched to making things like whole wheat pasta and cooking more stuff for us rather than going with the prepackaged.  These are things no sane human being would complain about.  My FI is pretty picky about certain things, but he's not going to throw a fit if I use the "no salt added" green beans.
Posted by feinicstine[/QUOTE]

See, we didn't pre-packaged foods really before I started the diet.  Most of our foods are fresh, local, and homemade with the exception of the weekly box of sugar free - fat free jello instant pudding.  i love that stuff.

So in order to diet effectively, I'd had to remove or limit  certain dirty words from my cooking vocabulary.  butter, fry, cream, bread, and potato.   All things that I was using too much.  Although I was calorie deficient prior to dieting, 50% of my calorie intake was bread.  Sure, i need GF bread, but bread none the less.