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Fathers and decor

Okay, so we've officially decided to go with the YWCA. And I KNOW we've talked about both of these things, but I can't seem to find very much time in between my files (although I'm still magically finding time to get on TK Wink)

I brought up the subject a few weeks ago about fathers wearing matching tuxes. And that I noticed alot of you have or are going to have the fathers in matching tuxes. I'd really like to do this for a number of reasons, but for some odd reason, my mother and FSIL think it's bizarre because FFIL will not be "participating" in the wedding. What are ya'lls thoughts on this?

Also, originally alot of my DIY decor was with either tissue paper or some other flammable substance. Which we cannot have at the Y. Does anyone have any pictures of a previous wedding there? I need to start looking for new ideas :)

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    fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011
    I do agree that your FFIL doesn't HAVE to wear a tux.  We made it optional for our fathers--Ben's father wore one, mine didn't (he didn't walk me down the aisle, but Ben's father did walk him down the aisle since that is Jewish custom).

    I am friends on FB with Knottie Appletango who got married at the YWCA. I looked at her pics on FB last week and didn't see alot of her decor in them.  I know she did something with colored water for her centerpieces though.  If you want, I'll ask her to contact you.

    Oh and congrats on selecting a venue! 
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    edited December 2011

    Well.. if they find it odd for them to match because he is not participating.. then why do they think he should wear one at all?  I mean he is just a guest (in their opinion), right?

    WAY too much overthinking on this.  :)

    I've never been to or seen a YWCA wedding so I can't help with decor... boo! 

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    bigbabyfacebigbabyface member
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    edited December 2011
    Steph- I actually came across the colored water idea a few weeks ago! I love it! :) but I haven't found a good way to incorporate our colors yet.....hmmm...

    Tiffany- I over think EVERY thing, it's in my nature :)
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    bsn1752bsn1752 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am doing tall cylider vases, with colored rocks (dark red) at the bottom and floating candles (you can do the LED water lights) on top... then putting that on a round mirror, and putting LED votives around that.  I really love the soft light - I think it's romantic.  AND I have 0 flowers (helllllo budget friendly).  It's super pretty!

    For the tuxes... my dad and my FFIL are both buying suits that match the GMs suits  (just plain black).
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    fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    bigbabyfacebigbabyface member
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    edited December 2011
    Brianna- That sounds REALLY pretty :) I can't wait to see how it all turns out.

    Aww thanks stephanie. It still amazes me how you remember all this stuff ;)
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    edited December 2011
    Congrats on mailing out the new contract!

    Our dads will be in matching tuxes... well I should say that my dad will be in one, still waiting to see if his dad bothers to go get fitted.  If he doesn't, I really don't care too much what he wears.
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    carmen9311carmen9311 member
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    edited December 2011
    for ours, the dad's will be wearing tuxes that will match the mom's dresses (well, the vests and bowties will match the colors...). 
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    edited December 2011

    I don't think too many people would notice if they matched or not. It's up to you on how you want the look to be.

    Congrats on signing your contract!!

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    edited December 2011

    Ashlee- I didn't mean you were overthinking it... I meant the family is! :)

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    MLandCJMLandCJ member
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    edited December 2011

    Wait...What can't you use at the Y?

    I'm planning on doing vintage items and mercury class on the tables with lots of candles.

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    bigbabyfacebigbabyface member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fathers-decor?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:293f4ed4-7f7d-4d01-b679-78f2026ec049Post:1c12285a-6e18-47cd-a7cc-ae11a7c8a9b0">Re: Fathers and decor</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wait...What can't you use at the Y? I'm planning on doing vintage items and mercury class on the tables with lots of candles.
    Posted by MLandCJ[/QUOTE]

    my tissue paper pomanders. (good thing i've only just started and have one)

    it's in the contract that you can't have them.

    <strong><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2"><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2"><p align="left">"Decorations</p></font></font></strong><font face="Arial" size="2"><font face="Arial" size="2"><p align="left">Renters may decorate the Great Room, the Ballroom and the staircase banisters. Renters <strong><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2"><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2">may not </font></font></strong><font face="Arial" size="2"><font face="Arial" size="2">attach tape, florist clay, tacks, screws or nails to any indoor or outdoor YWCA property, including Ballroom or Great Room floors. Decorations may be attached to the staircase banister with either ribbon or covered floral wire. <strong><font color="#ff0000">Crepe paper decorations and flammable items are not allowed.</font></strong> Do not attach decorations to antique furniture, ceiling fixtures, draperies, walls or doors. Do not remove anything from walls or shelves in any area of the YWCA. Floor runners are not allowed on the stairs but may be placed in Great Room for wedding ceremony. Silk rose petals may be used in Great Room only. Only </font></font><strong><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2"><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2">votive candles and hurricane lamps </font></font></strong><font face="Arial" size="2"><font face="Arial" size="2">are allowed in the Great Room or Grand Ballroom; caterers may not use candles with exposed flames on food service tables. </font></font><strong><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2"><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2">Only votives </font></font></strong><font face="Arial" size="2"><font face="Arial" size="2">may be used in candelabra in the Great Room during a wedding ceremony. Renters </font></font><strong><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2"><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2">must place protective drip plates under candles placed on mantel or tables</font></font></strong><font face="Arial" size="2"><font face="Arial" size="2">. </font></font><strong><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2"><font face="Arial,Bold" size="2">NO </font></font></strong><font face="Arial" size="2"><font face="Arial" size="2">candles on windowsills in Great Room or Ballroom."</font></font></p></font></font>
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    edited December 2011

    No one wore a tux to our wedding.  Our dads wore suits.  They did not have matching ties or ties that matched the wedding party.  In fact my dad wore a pink tie because he wanted to match my mom's dress - and they're divorced!  Huge eye roll to the parentals.

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    Catwoman708Catwoman708 member
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    edited December 2011
    If the wedding  is semi-formal (groom and GMs in tuxes) then I think it looks nice for the fathers to also wear tuxes.  Presumably the FOB will be escorting the bride down the aisle, so he kind of is in the wedding. 

    Plus, no matter who technically pays for the wedding, the parents of the bride and groom are sort of "honorary hosts" of the event, and it's a nice touch if they are  more formally dressed. 

    BUT, the fathers don't have to be in matching tuxes, and it's not your place to dictate how other adults should dress.  They are grown men and have the right to choose.

    When our daughter married, my husband hates rented tuxes, so he bought a nice black suit, a satin vest, and wore a tux shirt and bow tie, and had it tailored.  He got it at K & G menswear in Arlington, and the total cost, with new shoes, was under $300.  Of all the men in tuxes, I think his suit looked the best, got lots of compliments, and everyone thought it was a tux.
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