SO definitely not on topic of GIS, but -
FI has been married once before. He was married for a very short time, because his ex cheated her way through their ENTIRE relationship/marriage. While they were still married, though, they bought a house together. They were officially divorced in 2008.
Fast forward to 2010 - FI and I meet, start dating, etc. At that time, I had a BEAUTIFUL studio apartment in a little historic 110 year old building about 30 mins from FI's house. Once we got more serious, we were staying the night together more often and stuff, we both realized that we were spending way too much $ on gas driving back and forth multiple times per day (going to and from work, FI leaving to take care of his 2 dogs, etc) and we came to the decision that I would give up my apt and move in with FI. We both felt ready to make this commitment, and I was sad to leave my apt, but I knew that there was no way we could live in my studio with his 2 dogs.
We were both very anxious to get out of his house at that time, and move into something of "our own" since his house was previously shared by his ex and himself. We put the house on the market for 1 year, and it didn't sell. So we decided to do some renovations and eventually try to sell it again. Here we are 3 years later, and we are still living in his and his ex's house!
We have done a TON of renovations to the house to make it more "ours" but it still bugs me that she lived there and a lot of his old furniture and stuff was "theirs". Part of me thinks it's childish for me to think like this, but I so badly want a house that FI and I pick out together, and get new furniture together, etc. I have voiced this to FI, and he feels the same way, but he is afraid that if we just rush to sell it we won't make a profit off the house (he bought it for really cheap as a foreclosure), and him taking a loss on it isn't an option.
We talked the other day, and agreed to stay in the house for a few more years to finish renovating, and then hopefully sell it for way more $. But it saddens me that we are getting married in August and won't be starting our lives together in a house of our own.
Am I crazy for feeling this way (honestly)? Or can any of you ladies relate? Ugh...some days I don't think about it, but then there are days like today when I think a lot about it and it makes me sad.