Fat Girl Syndrome?

AndreaCata

Morning ladies...so here is my current dilemma:

Over the past 5 years...I've lost a total of almost 50lbs. Yay, awesome, congrats...blah blah blah. I know its a huge accomplishment and I should be very proud of myself...and I WAS...

But now that "oh wow, I've lost 50lbs." excitement has faded and I feel like I look exactly the same at 177lbs. as I did at 226lbs.

I know I need to loose more weight, not just for vanity reasons but for health too (I would like to end up around 150-155 which is good for my height of 5'8") and I am putting in the work which is fine.

I try to be positive and look at all the positive changes in my life...but let's face it, we are all on this board because we want to feel good about ourselves, inside AND out. I think I feel worse about myself now than I did 50lbs. ago.

Does anyone else have this problem? Maybe I'm just a freak...anyway, thanks for listening...errrr, reading this. Happy Hump Day!

TogetherPerfect

I have my days with this. I have lost 40 pounds and still have another 15 or so to lose, but sometimes I feel like I haven't lost hardly any weight. Other times, depending on what I'm wearing, I feel really good. What helped me is I took a before pic and a pic of me now and put them side by side so I could really see the difference.

entropicbeauty

I've only lost 32 and have about another 50 I'd like to lose and I can tell you the biggest thing for me is when other people compliment that they notice I've lost weight. It makes me feel like my hard work is not only paying off, but that other people DO notice.

It might also help to take out a pair of your old pants and put them on. Once you see how big they are on you it might reinforce the idea that you've come a long way

msuprincess04

My girlfriend went through her closet and threw out all the clothes that don't fit. And she kept her biggest pair of jeans. When she feels this way, she put them on, and can literally see the difference. Can you do something like that?

I am just at the beginning of my healthy quest, but I plan on doing something similar!

Meagan317

I have daily battles with myself about this so you are not alone. My favorite quote I once read was " I wish I could see myself how others see me not how I see myself" women in general are super critical of eachother and are even worse on ourselves. I just continue to push through Everyday and just realize I will always be a "work in progress"

anna.oskar

You are not alone at all.  Seriously, start reading my blog from the beginning.  Food isn't or enemy as much as our brain is.  Stupid brain, feeding us negative information.

Miss_2010

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[QUOTE]My girlfriend went through her closet and threw out all the clothes that don't fit. And she kept her biggest pair of jeans. When she feels this way, she put them on, and can literally see the difference. Can you do something like that? I am just at the beginning of my healthy quest, but I plan on doing something similar!
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I agree with exactly this

jpines22

Hi Andrea - Have you ever thought about seeing a therapist? Sometimes, even if you get to be super skinny, some people still don't feel good about themselves. It's really a mental thing. If you've felt bad about yourself for so long, maybe you need a professional to help you realize that you've come a long way and should accept yourself for who you are. OR - maybe you'll lose more weight and be really happy and not need counseling lol could go either way! just thought i'd suggest it.

allisonpickup80

I agree with Anna.... this is something to do with your thought process, not the actual weight... not to sound cheesy but it may help to talk to a counselor. Get to the root of the problem and fix that first.... you can fix the outside but if the inside isnt fixed, the outside wont stay fixed either Hang in there you can do it!

Sjmiller418

I can definitely relate to how your feeling. After losing the first 10 lbs I was estatic and felt great that clothes were loser and people were noticing but now even though I havent gained any of the weight back I feel like I have gone in reverse. I've stalled on weightloss for a bit so just hoping that changes so that is probably part of the cause. I just feel just as bad about the way I look as I did when I started even though I know I dont. 

I am not sure of how to get past it either but hoping that it is just going to keep me motivated to keep going to get to a point where I am happy with how I look.

AndreaCata

Thanks for the comments and suggestions ladies...you always make me feel like I am not alone in this...and I know that I am not!

lleeq88

Yes. I cant wait to get it all off and my attention span is so short, especially when we're talking weightloss.

My MOG is what we call "Professionally Thin", like coocoo, off her rocker, 65 and in better shape than most Americans... she scares me a little. But at least she has my back and gets on to her son for being such a heavy-handed bad influence, he eats awful and always wants to go eat and get drinks. Needless to say thanks MOG, can I quit my job and come live with you for 4 months... surely this would turn me around! I've gained nearly 30 lbs since moving in with him, her words echo in my head..."A moment on the lips is a lifetime on the hips." ... yeah, yeah lady,  but unlike you I have tastebuds, and I enjoy them.

Now, Granny of the Groom has coined my absolute favorite saying..... "I'm gonna take some exercise!" ... like taking an asprin or vitamin cures an ailment... take some exercise and you'll be better for it!    It's times like these when I wish I worked at a printing company and could you my fabulous (included with the job) Adobe Illustrator to create some awesome signage and cute little nothings to post this mantra EVERYWHERE and keep myself on track.
Anyway, I lost 20 pounds and then drifted my way back to 210. so uncool.   Our engagement photos will be in February, so thats 5 months. I would like to be 30 pounds lighter by then. That'll be tough, but I think it will be doable. Wish I had a bigger group of LOCAL gal pals to workout with and keep eachother on the straight and narrow.  From February 2013 I will have a year to get down to my dream 130 (I'm 5'1" so this really isn't a stretch, it was my size after coming of age, so I think it should do)

So in short I have 80lbs to loose before February 2014. Any one, especially you Houstonians out there wanting to get your butt in gear... let's talk, let's stay at it, and let's take some exercise!