July 2012 Weddings

Weird... WWYD?

Ok well it's not that weird but it's definitely starting to annoy me. I'm pretty close with my dad's ex wife, I grew up with her around and we get along very well. I invited her and my sister (her daughter) and both times I've verbally and emailed a STD she said her and my sister were coming for sure. And I say both times because our date was changed from last year. This isn't the issue at all btw, everyone is cool about it. So all this time I've been planning on sending her the formal invitation. When I went home and spoke to her she said oh I would love if we could go. Ok, looks like situations might be changing and she's trying to give me a heads up. No big. But she's continued to repeat this several times. On the phone, email, FB. I figured since I told her about the date and previously said we'd give her an invite anyway, I'd just send one to her. I recently emailed her asking for her home address, and the first thing she says is "Wish we could come!!" So what's the deal with the huge reminder?? Is she trying to tell me to NOT send her an invite or what? She's usually not like this at all. Does she want to avoid feeling guilty when sending in her "no" RSVP? If I can save an invite and envelope for someone else, I'll be happy to do it. I just don't know if she's trying to send me some kind of signal or something. WWYD? Send one anyway or save the invite for someone else??

Re: Weird... WWYD?

  • I would send one anyway so that you have the concrete invitation and the concrete "no" so that no one's feelings are hurt and so that there's absolutely no confusion on either side.
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  • Definitely go ahead and send her one. Sounds like she is giving you some weird mixed signals here.....
  • Send one anyway. It overs your butt - if you don't send one and just "assume" she can't make it - you might end up in a really bad situation.
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  • I would still send her one.  Did she give you her address in that email back?  Let her formally respond no.  How long have her and your dad been divorced?  Maybe she has given it a lot of thought and realized that maybe she will feel really uncomfortable being around your dads family?  I would not take her no response personally. 
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  • Yep, I'd still send one too.  And I agree with LADY. What's the relationship between her and your dad?
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  • ditto all pps
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  • I would send her one for sure but also ask her what does she mean by "wish we could come"..if you guys are close like that maybe she will tell you what's going on or maybe you can ask your sister..maybe she knows something that stepmom doesn't want to tell you to not hurt your feelings ! Good luck
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  • The relationship between her and my dad is great, they've been divorced for years so it has nothing to do with that. Actually I already know what it's about, she can't make it because of the cost of plane tickets. She's mentioned it before. And that's fine, honestly I completely understand if someone can't afford an international trip. I don't take it personally at all. The only thing that annoys me here is that she keeps bringing it up EVERY time we talk. It really makes me feel like she's trying to tell me to not invite her. Ugh like I get it, you can't come.. what's your point? Lol anyway, I'll be sending her an invite. Then she can tell me AGAIN she's not coming haha.
  • Send one anyway. Sometimes people think July is SOO far away that they arent sure of what may come up in the mean time. 
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