He wants the traditional vows. His basis: he wants to repeat the same traditional words his grandparents said to each other at the beginning of their 60+ year long marriage. I want to write our own vows. My basis: I feel like the traditional vows might as well be us reading off a hallmark card to each other, words someone else wrote. I want to be able to personalize it, to make it our own. How do we come to an agreement??