Practicing together or writing apart?

sborhani84

What are you doing?  I sort of want to be surprised but at the same time he wants to write them together.  So what to do?

- Sheri

future-mrs

You do whatever you and FI decide on.  Either way is fine.

bebonomi

My FI didn't want to write vows but I do so I drafted some vows and read them to him to convince him that we should write our own vows. I originally didn't want to share vows before the ceremony but now I like the idea of sharing them that way they are somewhere similar.

courtneylougee

I agree with bebonomi.  You're going to want them to be connected in some way.  That way you're not just going to talk about completely different things (unless that's how you want it!!).  If you don't want your hubby to be to know what you're going to say give him an outline (something close to like a mad lib)  where he can fill in his feelings or memories of each other together.  That way you're both on track and yet saying different things to each other.

sborhani84

cool, thanks for the idea!