1ST draft and questions

Buggles522

 This is my first draft. Please give opinions. Also maybe I'm just not getting this or something, but okay you have your personal vows that you say, what exactly are these in place of? And then do you have the whole exchange the rings after these? Is that a different set of vows or does that not count as vows at all? Someone please explain this all too me. We are having a nondenominational religious ceremony if that helps anyone explain this. I noticed there were different traditional vows for different ceremonies.

Jason,

I love you so much. You’ve given me so much in our relationship. You’ve given me your friendship. I know I can tell you anything and you won’t judge me even if I’m having a blonde moment. You’ve given me your support. You’ve let me drive you crazy with all my OCD planning and list but you’ve always supported all my decisions. You’ve given me love. You’ve loved me more than I knew I could be loved. Every day I think about how much you care for me and I’m just amazed that I have someone in my life like you that does love me as much as you do.  You’ve given me headaches. Yes we fight, and you drive me crazy sometimes, but we always make up within an hour of the fight.  And most importantly you’ve given me the most precious thing in my life. You’ve given me our daughter Kadee. I love our daughter more than I even knew could be possible, and I love you even more for blessing me with her.

I promise to always love you. I promise to be the best wife and mother I can possibly be. I promise to take care of you when you’re sick and acting like a little baby. I promise to try not to correct you every time you say something dumb. I promise to be a Godly woman and to help raise our children with those same beliefs. I promise to give you that extra push when you need it. And I promise to support anything you ever want to do in life…….that isn’t too dangerous.  
                I love you and I’m so excited to make our little family official and continuing to live and love with you and Kadee. 

Tanq&Tonic

It's kind of up to you how you want to set up your ceremony.  We wrote our vows which substituted for the "better or worse, richer or poorer" part.  After that, we still did the exhange of the rings, where our officiant read something and we repeated ("take this ring as a sign of my love....").  You could certainly combine the two by adding "I give you this ring..." to the end of your vows / commitments.

We didn't have a long, drawn out "history of us" part to our vows.  Our officiant weaved in some stories about us into the main ceremony, so our vows were short & sweet, and simply what we promised.

I think your vows are nice, but I might take out some of the negatives -- your OCD planning tendences, your fighting and duration, etc.  Keep in mind this is in front of all your friends and family, so you want to focus on the good and the positive.

Steeda

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[QUOTE]It's kind of up to you how you want to set up your ceremony.  We wrote our vows which substituted for the "better or worse, richer or poorer" part.  After that, we still did the exhange of the rings, where our officiant read something and we repeated ("take this ring as a sign of my love....").  You could certainly combine the two by adding "I give you this ring..." to the end of your vows / commitments. <strong>We didn't have a long, drawn out "history of us" part to our vows</strong>.  Our officiant weaved in some stories about us into the main ceremony, so our vows were short & sweet, and simply what we promised. I think your vows are nice, but I might t<strong>ake out some of the negatives</strong> -- your OCD planning tendences, your fighting and duration, etc.  <strong>Keep in mind this is in front of all your friends and family, so you want to focus on the good and the positive.</strong>
Posted by Tanq&Tonic[/QUOTE]

this!

scrpio421

Half your vows sound like you love him, the other half are a little iffy. Try to take out anything that's negetive (you make me crazy, fighting, he says dumb things etc) and focus more on the positive. You're telling people why you want to marry him, and then what you are promising. Keeping something funny thing in there is ok, like about supporting him in everything that's not too dangerous. Cute and not negative. But try to limit the comic relief.
Good luck

jennilap

I agree with everyone has said. It's ok to put a small negative like you're there for me when i'm having a crazy moment - something that would be confortable in front of everyone and make ppl smile or laugh. The one thing that really took me aback was the 'we can now make our little family official'. doesnt sound too great. you were a family before, now you are just bindings your lives together under God for life and promising to take care of one another according to those beliefs.

hope this helps