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Honest Opinions?

Hi all - We are less than two months away and I believe I have finished my vows for my fiance. I know lots of people ask, but I don't have a bridal party or many close friends to run this by...so if possible, can anyone give a good opinion of it? As a little background, we have been together 5 years in November and we are big nerds. We poke fun at each other and are huge dorks. Anyway, here it goes:

(Name),

     Agreeing to have lunch with you five years ago was the greatest thing I never wanted to do.  I thought you were nerdy, forward, and not at all what I was looking for. After parting ways for the first time, I was left anxious, excited, and flustered – feelings I had never felt after meeting someone before. And I knew that I wanted to have lunch with you again.

 

     Our relationship grew rapidly, and we began a whirlwind of romance. We rushed, and fell for each other; we connected, and tested the bonds between us. We had times when there was no light and we needed each other above all else. I have not let myself go with anyone else like I have with you – I smile, I laugh, I cry, and I fight. But I wouldn’t want to share those emotions with anybody else.

 

     I say this over and over again to you, but you are the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing I think about before I go to bed. I talk about you constantly during my day – although not always positive, I would hope that it’s the thought that counts. I cherish that every morning we write to each other, “I love you.” Even after ups and downs, big fights and small, we grow stronger and love each other more every minute of every day. 


     We have wanted to have each other as husband and wife for years. We waited and cultivated our relationship into the strong emotional, physical, and mental state that it is in now. I know that no matter how we are tested, that we will remain strong in our love for each other and that that strength can only grow.

 

     Our experiences together have allowed me to become the person that I am today. You have taught me to be strong, to love who I am, to push away any doubt about myself whether it comes from me or from others, and have shown me that I will have someone by my side for always and forever. You stood by me in so many hard times, and still loved me when I was mean and sarcastic and unaccommodating.

    

     To me, we have the perfect relationship. We hate, love, laugh, and mock one another. We can tease each other in public, but can go home and snuggle on the couch hand in hand. I have seen the best and worst side of you, as you have of me.  And I wouldn’t want it any other way.

I love you with all of my heart and am so happy that we are going to leave here as a married couple. But first, my personal vows to you. I promise to love you, no matter how many stupid things you do. I promise to stand by you in thick and thin, through both amazing and dreadful times. I promise to be patient when driving in the car with you, and to be understanding when you run late at work. I promise to cherish the times we have together, whether it be an hour at night before I go to bed, or a whole day when we share a weekend. I promise that I will try and be the most caring, compassionate, and devoted wife that I can be. And most of all, I vow that I will there for you when the world turns its back, when no one else is there, and when all you need is a kiss and a hug.

 

     I love you (name). I am ready to jump into the final frontier that is marriage, to explore strange new places and have new adventures, and to go where no Mullins has gone before. And of course, that our lives together will live long and prosper. I am so ready to be your wife. 

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    edited December 2011
    I absolutely love them! I love how personal you made it! Thumbs up!!
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    edited December 2011
    I would take out some of the negatives... it may seem funny and cute to you, but others might think "what? did she just say that she hates him?" "Did she really say that she didn't even want to have lunch with him cause he's nerdy!?"

    IDK... that's just my opinion... but I would side-eye that.
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    JaymezcJaymezc member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks so much both of you! I really appreciate the feedback.
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    edited December 2011
    NP =) I'm sure you'll make them exactly what is perfect for you two!
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    jcknutsonjcknutson member
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    edited December 2011
    I really like your vows....but then got a little bord reading them after a few paragraphs....now think about your guests.  Trying to keep their attention (especially after he's already said his) is key, you dont want them to take a snooze on you.  You are very honest but maybe a little too honest towards the end, perhaps leaving out the fighting, which you eluded to earlier in the vow.  

    I like to think of vows as, well, vows, not a story of your five years together.  Just one person's oppinon.  I do have to say the few little humerous jabs were quite nice :)  I think you'll keep your guests hanging in there with you with some light hearted jokes.

    Good luck!
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_vows_honest-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:24Discussion:8597a5de-7385-4a32-b2ce-2669d859415dPost:07c48f02-cf0b-417c-8e0d-ead43d9a1c0f">Re: Honest Opinions?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would take out some of the negatives... it may seem funny and cute to you, but others might think "what? did she just say that she hates him?" "Did she really say that she didn't even want to have lunch with him cause he's nerdy!?" IDK... that's just my opinion... but I would side-eye that.
    Posted by katy0293[/QUOTE]

    <div>I diagree respectively. One of the big things about when FI and I first met was how I hated his guts and he told his close friends he would marry me one day. Everyone already knows this and if they don't, I don't think they ould side-eye us, but that's just my circle of friends/family.</div><div>
    </div><div>The issue I <em>do</em> have, as PP said, they are kind of long. To be honest, I didn't read them all (<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />). I would cut out a few paragraphs. Read them out loud how you would at the ceremony and if seems drawn out still, make a few more cuts. But over all, I like the feel. =)</div>
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    maxjury14maxjury14 member
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    edited December 2011
    They were realllllllyyyyyyy long!  I couldn't imagine sitting through them at the ceremony.  It kind of felt like a ready instead of vows.  But, only you know what works for you.  They were sweet and fun.  So, if you like it, go with it.  I just wanted to tell you what some people "might" be feeling! good luck!
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