25th anniversary renewal

acandybuffet

We are having a 25th anniversary luau reception with Hawaiian dancer, fire dance, all the food and drink that goes along with a luau.  We are making surfboard cookies as name cards, candy buffet (Sweet Creations by Judy) three tier wedding cake, everything to make this day special.

My husband wants to add our wedding renewal because when we got married 25 years ago we were by ourselves and in shorts.  I thought we could stand up at the reception do the renewals and then start the party!  My husband wants me to walk down the aisle with our son walking me down.  Is this to much and what is the right way to do this.  I don't mind either way.

Another thing, someone told him to make sure to put on the invitations no presents, please.  They said it's poor taste to ask for presents.  I did ask for any presents but I also did not say no presents. We did not get any wedding presents 25 years ago and this is our 25th so if someone wants to buy us a 25th wedding anniversary gift or card I don't see anything wrong with that.  Who's correct?

mcqmaureen

There are vow renewals which are full wedding ceremonies--the woman in a white wedding gown, a ceremony with an officiant, a reception.  If your husband wants to walk down the aisle and you do, too, with or without your son, that's fine.

Presents aren't usually given for vow renewals because the point of wedding presents was originally that the bride and groom were starting a new life together and needed basic things to start a household.  That's obviously a lot less true now since many couples have set up household long before they marry.

I don't know that it would occur to me to buy someone a gift for a vow renewal.  But the wording on your invites is really up to you.  And the luau sounds fun!

Julie2013

Your renewal sounds like a lot of fun! If you want your son to escort you down the aisle, there's no reason you can't have him do that. I'm all for the couple doing their renewal as they want.

I'm pretty sure the proper etiquette would be to leave off any mention of gifts in the invite, even if it's to let your guests know you don't want any. The reason being, that implies you felt they should bring one in the first place and now you are telling them it's ok not to. Did that make any sense?

I see this post was made back in August. If you've already had your renewal, it would be wonderful for you to pop back in and tell us how it went!