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Pastor problems

I need advice!! My fiance and I had an officiant picked out (informaly) hadn't paid anything ... then starting going to a church where we liked the pastor a lot. We've probably been going now for a couple months. About a month ago we asked him about marrying us. He said he'd do it - and that he offered pre marital counseling, which we are looking forward to - and doesn't charge anything to marry us. I've heard from him maybe once or twice since then - seen him at church but he struggles to remember my name ( i understand w/ an attendance of around 1000 guests). However - I just get the feeling like I am worried that he won't be reliable, or that he won't show up, or will have something come up, etc. One thing I was to be confident in is the person who will be doing the actual marrying! The wedding date isn't until October 20th ... so, I don't know. Am I just stressing?? I sent him an e-mail on Monday touching base and asking if we could meet in the next few weeks to discuss the process. I haven't heard back from him. Help! I don't want to be a naggy bride to be - but I also want to have my ducks in a row!
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Re: Pastor problems

  • I'd call him a setup a meeting, you should be able to come to a decision after a one on one with him.  Don't go with someone you're not 100% comfortable with, follow your gut...
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  • kiki1978kiki1978 member
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    edited April 2012
    My church has over 3,500 attend over the weekend. I walked right past the pastor who is going to be marrying us and he didn't recognize me.  I think once you start premarital counseling you will be able to get a better feel about whether or not this person is reliable.  Just an FYI, I don't hear from our officiant alot either.  We contact him with any questions or issues.  He also has us email him when we can do premarital counseling.
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  • catwinecatwine member
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    honestly, i'd day not to count on the new pastor.  we switched churches but wanted the pastor of the old one to marry us and he agreed. he said he would set us up with counselling and a time to get together.  i tried getting in tocuh with him afer that (on facebook, which he checks daily) but haven't heard from him since september.  \

    we decided to find a new pastor because the other one clearly couldn't be bothered with us...the new onw is great adn we have already finished cour couselling sessions with him.

    so, i say get a new pastor!
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