Non-Traditional Vows Problem

AnnNicole87

Ok, so I'm 99.9% my wonderful soon-to-be hubby is writing a song for his vows to me and now I'm FLIPPING OUT because I feel like traditional spoken vows couldn't possibly stand up to a song written and performed by my incredibly talented love. I thought about writing a poem (which I'm ok at) but can anyone else come up with another non-traditional way to deliver my vows? By the way, I can't sing, so that's not an option. Haha.

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]Ok, so I'm 99.9% my wonderful soon-to-be hubby is writing a song for his vows to me and now I'm FLIPPING OUT because I feel like traditional spoken vows couldn't possibly stand up to a song written and performed by my incredibly talented love. I thought about writing a poem (which I'm ok at) but can anyone else come up with another non-traditional way to deliver my vows? By the way, I can't sing, so that's not an option. Haha.
Posted by AnnNicole87[/QUOTE]

I have no advice, other than ask him to say his vows, and not sing them.  Your vows to each other are serious.  they aren't a theatre performance.

ElcaB

Deliver them however you see fit! Just because you speak yours and he sings his it doesn't make yours less meaningful. Just enjoy hearing him say (or sing) how he feels

meggiemo

This is a wedding, not a competition! Make your vows as meaningful and heartfelt as you possibly can, but don't worry about who's "will be better." In the end, you'll remember his, he'll remember yours, and a few of your guests might remember that someone sang a song about something.

Ella and Pedro

How about a vow haiku? (kidding, actually)

I think they should be balanced, and you should ask him to please just speak his vows.  I agree that there should not be a sense of competition or theatre.

But - if you two are doing something theatrical or unorthodox, then I think they should both be 'the same' in that way.  So, if you can't sing, it doesn't seem balanced.