Talk Big Thursday

mpickl

What do you have to AW this week? 

elliemonster2012

I have to AW myself for not going off on my MOH more than I did.  I really don't want to talk about it but I've just had enough of her negativity and last nights comment put me over the edge.  This is friendship changing for me, that is for sure.

And I'd also like to AW FI for being so wonderful and my other BMs for always being there and being excited and reminding me this is all worth it!

ncwenze

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[QUOTE]I have to AW myself for not going off on my MOH more than I did.  I really don't want to talk about it but I've just had enough of her negativity and last nights comment put me over the edge.  This is friendship changing for me, that is for sure. And I'd also like to AW FI for being so wonderful and my other BMs for always being there and being excited and reminding me this is all worth it!
Posted by elliemonster2012[/QUOTE]

<div>Sorry to hear that Ellie, weddings can really open your eyes to underlying issues. One of my bridesmaids complained that one of the dresses we liked was too expensive (mind you for her wedding we paid for everything ourselves, dress, hair, makeup, jewelry, shower, and NEVER complained), and now just got a BMW for christmas. It's not the money issue, its that she's totally selfish. if it's for her she wants the best, but if its for anyone else all she does is complain. </div>

semi891

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk Big Thursday : Sorry to hear that Ellie, weddings can really open your eyes to underlying issues. One of my bridesmaids complained that one of the dresses we liked was too expensive (mind you for her wedding we paid for everything ourselves, dress, hair, makeup, jewelry, shower, and NEVER complained), and now just got a BMW for christmas. It's not the money issue, its that she's totally selfish. if it's for her she wants the best, but if its for anyone else all she does is complain. 
Posted by ncwenze[/QUOTE]
 I'm having that problem too, I have a friend who spends money on all kinds of stuff then complains to me all the time that she's broke and that she doesn't want to buy a dress. I'm paying for a hotel suite, shoes, hair for my BM already... I would buy the dress to make life easier, but it's hard when she shops like crazy (right in front of me!) then turns around and complains about money!

semi891

I want to AW the fact that I paid off my dress this week! (I had to put half down, then pay the next two quarters over two months). The dress was more than my budget, but I got all teary eyed when I put it on.  Luckily the floor model was my size, it hadn't even been tried on yet (it was in the window!) so they gave me a discount and I don't have to worry about ordering it in!

BostonGIrl4732

I'm sorry you're having issues with the bridal party.  My sister told me there was minor drama but that's between them so they can deal with it like adults.

I'm letting my bridesmaids pick any dress that's navy and cocktail length.  I told them that I trust them to pick something appropriate for a church wedding and that if they needed direction, I could send them links to dresses that would work so they could get an idea.  I also told them that I would show them my dress if it helped (I've heard that the bridesmaid dresses should match the formality of the bridal gown).  My sister (MOH) is more stressed out about it than I am.

We also got a great deal at the hotel and our bridal party gets first dibbs.  And the majority of them either live in the area or know somebody who does (and the one person that doesn't has been offered our sofa).  So that helped a lot.  We're doing what we can to keep down their expenses.  That being said, sometimes people just like to complain.  That's on them though.

Back to the originally point: I AW myself and my FI for figuring out our guest list and getting a TON of addresses this week.  I have no problem being an attention w*ore about that! Hehe!

elliemonster2012

Thanks girls!  It is just one of those things....people don't even understand why I continue to be friends with her.  She in all reality is selfish, rude 90% of the time and blatently voices her non interest in weddings - hers or mine.  I've dealt with it for 10 years and have accepted it is who she is but she just crossed the line last night.  It is more just like..."wtf..."best friend".  Ugh.

But it's THURSDAY!  Week almost over - hooray!  We can all be happy about that!!

jessica2244

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[QUOTE]Thanks girls!  It is just one of those things....people don't even understand why I continue to be friends with her.  <strong>She in all reality is selfish, rude 90% of the time and blatently voices her non interest in weddings - hers or mine.  I've dealt with it for 10 years and have accepted it is who she is but she just crossed the line last night.  It is more just like..."wtf..."best friend".</strong>  Ugh. But it's THURSDAY!  Week almost over - hooray!  We can all be happy about that!!
Posted by elliemonster2012[/QUOTE]

I feel so bad for you because i can totally relate. i told my best friend of 13 years a couple of weeks ago that i don't want to be friends anymore. she's exactly as you've described above and i just can't be treated like a punching bag anymore. so now i'm down a bridesmaid. oh, and just and FYI - i had asked her to be my MOH and she said NO!!!! i guess it was for the best right? GRRRRRR!!!!

ftrmrsw

I'm in AW at how awesome the owner of our Venue is. Our coordinator quit a couple weeks ago, which is for the best becuase I didn't really like her anyways. However, I was a little worried as we'd been back and forth alot and she knew what I wanted and what we agreed on, so I was a little worried about everything going through.

Well I emailed the venue to ask a couple questions and the Owner himself got back to me. Not only did he offer to do a Dessert Buffet for the same price as what the served chocolate mouse would have cost (a whole buffet for 4 dollars vs. one measly chocolate mouse!!), he cut the cost of chair covers nearly in half! Then a few mintues later, emailed me again and told me if we went ahead with the dessert buffet he'd throw in an extra course for our dinner as "our little secret".

I was so excited and relieved that it seems working with him is going to be much better than the old girl we had!

elliemonster2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk Big Thursday : I feel so bad for you because i can totally relate. i told my best friend of 13 years a couple of weeks ago that i don't want to be friends anymore. she's exactly as you've described above and i just can't be treated like a punching bag anymore. so now i'm down a bridesmaid. oh, and just and FYI - i had asked her to be my MOH and she said NO!!!! i guess it was for the best right? GRRRRRR!!!!
Posted by jessica2244[/QUOTE]

UGH.  I feel ya.  If it makes you feel any better, mine made me buy and pick up her BM dress because it is pink and she doesn't like it and then proceeded to post a pic of her in the dress with a black tutu over it and combat boots....both of which she'd never pair together or obviosuly wear lol.  It's just exhausting.

jessica2244

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Talk Big Thursday : UGH.  I feel ya.  If it makes you feel any better, mine made me buy and pick up her BM dress because it is pink and she doesn't like it and then proceeded to post a pic of her in the dress with a black tutu over it and combat boots....both of which she'd never pair together or obviosuly wear lol.  It's just exhausting.
Posted by elliemonster2012[/QUOTE]

OH...MY...GOD!!!!!!! seriously, you have plenty of time. BOOT HER!!!!!!!! :)