friday ventday!!!

ajuled87

Well things have been going really good for FI and I planning is good we are making decisions together and things are just good. Then steps in my mother. we want a band to perform at the reception and she is totally against it. Well lucky for her they dont have any insurance so the venue wont let them play. So start looking at a dj and he doesnt have it either so mom says well we can use our house insurance to cover him. Of course this upset me because she is willing to cover for the dj but not the band that we want. So now i am stuck I dont know if I should just give in to her and do what she wants or if i should put my foot down. If she is willing to cover for the dj she should be willing to cover for the band. I feel like she is planning her wedding this isnt the first occurance of her stepping in like this either. I love her to death i just needed to vent. 

mpickl

Love it.

My vent is with this weather! I'm so done with winter. Today, instead of just snowing, it is spitting freezing rain along with the snow. How does that even work, scientifically? And I have a big peeve with people who can't bother to dust all the snow off of their cars. So unsafe!

BostonGIrl4732

Well, we haven't been hit with the blizzard yet.  So work is open.  I've been told to work from home, but I actually do have to work (if the office was closed I would have gotten a real "snow day").  Not a big deal, but my aunt is supposed to come over and her kids are out of school for the day.  They are WILD and I don't think I will be able to get any work done with them here.  I told my aunt not to bother coming over because of the storm, but with no snow even falling yet, I'd be surprised if she stayed home.  I'm just praying she'll leave the kids at home.  I can either work from home in the kitchen/living area (can't do that when everyone is gathered there though) or the basement (where the kids go to play).  *bangs head against the wall*

Not looking forward to being snowed in tonight/tomorrow.

TayBeach2013

I have a major migraine and shouldn't even be awake, yet I came into work.  I don't know how long I will last.

BostonGIrl4732

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[QUOTE]I have a major migraine and shouldn't even be awake, yet I came into work.  I don't know how long I will last.
Posted by TayBeach2013[/QUOTE]

<div>Awww, feel better soon!!!</div>

semi891

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2013-weddings_friday-ventday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:26a515ec-8009-4599-b81d-5edee3b3fb3cDiscussion:f497fbf9-f078-4d21-9032-fd0b6edcb68dPost:c43abe01-6567-4a7f-a451-b2af0a5d484d">Re: friday ventday!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Love it. My vent is with this weather! I'm so done with winter. Today, instead of just snowing, it is spitting freezing rain along with the snow. How does that even work, scientifically? And I have a big peeve with people who can't bother to dust all the snow off of their cars. So unsafe!
Posted by mpickl[/QUOTE]
I'm pretty sure people can get pulled over for not brushing the snow off...

My vent, is that the girl that owns the store I work at (I rent my chair from her for hair) moved out of her boyfriend's house and they have since broken up.  She can be difficult to work with at the best of times, and I really feel for her, I do.  She moved in with him a couple months ago and they started having problems before she moved in (he doesn't want to give up his 'bachelorhood' even though he's 36 years old...).  It's been really ugly at work for the last couple of months, if they were fighting then she would be  in a FOUL mood.  Yesterday, she was in the store and started YELLING at him on the phone.  I have a client in my chair so I'm trying to drown out the noise with talking the best I can.  Then she goes out onto the street, in front of the store and SCREAMS at him on the phone, right in front of the store, on the main street in town.  It's so embarrassing and so unprofessional.

Honeybee685

Yesterday my MOH texts me furiously- she can never just send one well thought-out mesage- and is going crazy with scheduling my bridal shower.  It is settled, but it just would be easier to have the ladies decide on a date and tell me to take off of work!

Next vent- apparently my grandmother is complaining to my mom about my wedding shoes, the bridesmaid dresses (that I haven't finalized yet!) and that I only get a hold of her "when I want something".  Yes, I'm wearing blue shoes for the wedding.  Yes, I might want all my girls in different dresses, and yes, I have a life.  I can't just get together and socialize on a minutes notice.  I did not ask her to help pay for my dress- I'm a big girl with a full time job.  I also have a dog, apartment and fiance to take care of and live a half hour away.  Ugh.  Rant over.

DMoore421

You can get an insurance policy for like 150 ish. Without her house insurance you can do it. Just call around. Even your car insurance company proba Lu has a policy available

BAS19

I'll try to keep my long rant as short as possible. My mom is what I lovingly call batshit crazy. She has a long history of illnesses and cancer, but mostly her issues are caused by her own refusal to get therapy for abuse she suffered from my brother and sister's father. She has been declining rapidly in recent years to the point where out of the 3 of her kids normally only one of us is speaking to her. I have the "luxury" of living in Florida, while she is in Wisconsin with the rest of our family so normally she is my sister's problem. When I called to tell her I was engaged she seemed annoyed, and pissed that I told my dad before her. I let it go as part of her being pissed my brother didn't call to wish her Merry Christmas. I have had limited contact with her during the planning so far since I can't handle being excited just to have her crush it and make me feel bad about something I didn't even do.

On Saturday, I called really excited to tell her I got my wedding dress and how much I loved it etc. She was happy for me for about 5 seconds then started asking about where people were staying for the wedding. I already informed her a few weeks before that we were only providing one hotel since the guest list is so small and almost everyone is from out of town, we would like them as close as possible so we see them as much as possible. She then reminded me that she has no money and would have to sleep in her Jeep in the parking lot and asked me to bring her down extra pillows and blankets.

I told her who so far had told FI and I they would stay at the hotel and I made the stupid mistake of mentioning my brother. She then went into a tirade about how much money he owes her and how he won't talk to her because of it and how can he afford to come to my wedding when he owes her so much, blah blah blah. She then states that if he is coming, then she isn't. She also asked if my brother knew Bobby (her piece of trash alcoholic husband) was coming because surely if he knew Bobby was coming, he wouldn't. Even though I was driving home and almost in tears, I calmly state that everyone is an adult and they should be able to put aside their issues for one day for me, and that I refuse to invite one of them over the other and essentially be picking which family member I love more. I need to mention that we have also had this same converstaion about my father who does everything in the world to make his only child happy, including paying for my mothers cell phone so she had a way to contact me.

FI keeps telling me I need to tell her to act like a human being and if she can't, then she isn't invited to the wedding. And while rationally I know that makes sense, she is still my mom. I want her there, I want my mom to be happy her "baby" is getting married to the love of her life that would never consider treating her the way my mother allows men to treat her. I know she will probably end up making me cry several more times before this is over and my FMIL might deck her at the wedding trying to protect me, but I can't be rational. She's my mom.

Sorry that was so long, but no one in my daily life wants to hear how upset I get over my mom anymore so I just needed to vent on Friday Ventday!.

Honeybee685

Bas, you are not alone.  I'm sorry you have a crazy mom.  Don't cry too much, and when you need to let out a vent, come right here :-)

APDSS22

You can always vent here, Internet strangers are some of the best listeners.  Personally, I have no major vents this week, I'm too tired from work.  This is my weekend off though, and I plan on enjoying it.