My fiance and I are getting married in April 2nd and have been thinking long and hard about what to do for our favors. He will most likely be deploying shortly after our wedding so we started to discuss donating to the "Heart of a Marine Foundation" since they help out all branches of the military. My family is full of military members as well as his. We don't want our guest to feel cheated out of a favor or anything like that but we want to help out a military charity as well. Is there an easy/cheap way to do both or should we just make the donation and write up little notes saying something along the lines of in lieu of favors, we've donated the money to a charity instead?
Re: Charitable donation in lieu of favors?
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I think it's inappropriate to donate anything "in your guests' names". Let them make donations to charities that are important to them. You make donations to charities that are important to you.
Just leave your wedding out of it.
What has happened to the Knot? So much for friendly discussion and advice, it seems more like "what I do is right, what you want to do is wrong, and I'm going to tell you just how wrong you are". That is so unfortunate.
[QUOTE]I just read this string of posts and I am appauled at how rude the replies are. What happened to friendly discussion? In repsonse to telling someone to read the "sticky", I read the sticky and it didn't help me make up my mind, reading two peoples opionions is not a discussion. I would also prefer to hear what more people have to say on the topic. What has happened to the Knot? So much for friendly discussion and advice, it seems more like "what I do is right, what you want to do is wrong, and I'm going to tell you just how wrong you are". That is so unfortunate.
Posted by claudinedejoie[/QUOTE]
What exactly was rude? She was advised to read the sticky because they are placed at the top of boards on subjects that are asked over and over and frankly, most people are tired of hearing the question. The two responses are the only responses you will get but overwhelmingly, Trix's response is that of the majority of posters: charitable donations are not favors. In addition, they can be offensive as some posters have had these "favors" made in their name to charities they oppose for one reason or another.
Don't believe me, use the search feature at the bottom of the page and take a look at past threads.
AKA GoodLuckBear14
[QUOTE]Didn't you know Tricia? Thinking something is a bad idea, backing that thought up with logic and reason, and then providing resources for the person with the original idea to get further information on it are the HEIGHT of rudeness. Duh!
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
My humblest apologies ::deep sweeping bow::
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[QUOTE]I am doing a charitable donation. My fiance is a firefighter and many of our guests will be fireman as well. I am donating to the ct fallen firefighter fund. I will be giving each guest a little box with a chocolate fire helmet with a note about the donation. Many girls on here bash charitable donations, but then turn and bash other girls favor ideas. Do whatever you feel like and do not let the girls on here change your mind. In my opinion, many of these girls would not be happy with anything except what they chose as their gift. I can guarantee that not everyone was in love with their favor. You cannot please everyone. It is your wedding, you choose!
Posted by arielmatador14[/QUOTE]
Ahhh....the bitter old hags defense to a bad idea.
Generally, edible favors are the best way to go like your chocolate fire helmet. Things that are personalized with the B&G's name or wedding date do not go over well because who really wants something with this engraving. Burned CDs are another bad idea as not everyone has the same musical taste. Charitable donations are not favors. Period. Go ahead and made the donation but don't try to call it a favor.
AKA GoodLuckBear14
[QUOTE]I am doing a charitable donation. My fiance is a firefighter and many of our guests will be fireman as well. I am donating to the ct fallen firefighter fund.<strong> I will be giving each guest a little box with a chocolate fire helmet with a note about the donation. </strong> Many girls on here bash charitable donations, but then turn and bash other girls favor ideas. Do whatever you feel like and do not let the girls on here change your mind. In my opinion, many of these girls would not be happy with anything except what they chose as their gift. I can guarantee that not everyone was in love with their favor. You cannot please everyone. It is your wedding, you choose!
Posted by arielmatador14[/QUOTE]
So, essentially what you're doing is giving everyone a favor (the chocolate fire helmets) to tell them that you're not giving them a favor.That just doesn't make any sense at all.
Give the chocolate helmets (very cute), but leave the note about the donation out of it. By all means, GIVE the donation from you and your FI, but I see absolutely no need to announce it to your guests.