Favors

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK

I WAS SPEAKING WITH SOMEONE ABOUT WEDDING FAVORS, AND SHE SAID TO ME WHICH I DIDNT THINK WAS A BAD IDEA UNTIL I TOLD MY FIANCE ABOUT IT. SHE SAID THAT HER AND HER HUSBAND MADE DONATIONS TO CENTERS SUCH AS CANCER TREATMENT, DIALYSIS CENTERS ETC. SO FOR FAVORS SHE HAD HER MOTHER AND LAW TO TYPE UP TAGS LETTING THEM KNOW WHAT THEY DID INSTEAD OF FAORS. MY FINCE SAID THAT WHY SHOULD WE DO THAT AT THIME WHEN WE CAN DO THAT ANYTIME OF YEAR WHICH I THINK IS RIGHT BUT I ALSO THINK WHAT SHE DID WAS ALSO A GOOD IDEA... WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

Re: WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK

  • mgietler76mgietler76 member
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    edited December 2011
    First please don't write in all caps, it's a little difficult to read. And second check out the sticky at the top of the favors board, it's all about donations as favors.
  • edited December 2011
    This is MUD, right?

    Mother and law?  Come on.
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  • mgietler76mgietler76 member
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    edited December 2011
    I never thought it could be MUD since I didn't read the entire post because of all the caps lol, could be though.
  • edited December 2011
    I think donations as favors are really nice.  The truth is, most favors get thrown away and aren't worth the money people spend on them.  It's a much better use of your money in the sense that that money will go to something like cancer research, instead of a knick-knack that will likely be thrown away.  I doubt any guests will care that they didn't get a tangible favor. 
  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011

    Make your donation.  I believe in donations.  I make them myself.  I think they're a good thing to do.

    But don't pretend that they're a favor to your guests.  Because they're not.  They're a favor to the organization, and to you.  You're taking the money you'd spend on a little something for your guests and giving it to someone else.  How do you figure that's a favor for your guests?

    Honestly, I don't need a favor.  I don't really want a favor.  You're already giving me food, drinks, entertainment.  I don't need a matchbook or m&ms (although I LOVE m&ms) as a thank you.

    But please don't in any, way, shape or form think that giving $$ to a charity is somehow doing something for me.

    I'd liken it to a guest coming to your wedding and giving you a card that says "In honor of your marriage, I have given a donation to the "eastern micronesia tsunami prevention fund".  It may be important to your guest, but it probably doesn't mean anything to you.  So it's not really a gift for you, is it?

     

    Oh, and I think you should stop typing in all caps.  It's really harder to read.

    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • mgietler76mgietler76 member
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    edited December 2011
    Trix -  I love how you have that at the ready to post, it's the perfect way to explain the basic consensus of donations as favors. I should have just waited for your post and than ditto'd it lol
  • edited December 2011
    i belong to the donations are great but they are not a favor school. and if you make a donation you should probably keep it to your self
  • lalap69lalap69 member
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    edited December 2011
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  • tldhtldh member
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Ditto PPs.  Plus one thing that apparently need to be yelled at some of the newer people posting:

    ahem, DO NOT GIVE OUT ANY PERSONAL INFORMATION ABOUT YOURSELF
    @OP - CHANGE YOUR SCREEN NAME.  YOU SHOULD NOT USE YOUR NAME AT ALL!!!!
    @SAMSCSI - WHY IN THE WORLD DO YOU HAVE YOUR E.MAIL ADDRESS AS YOUR SCREEN NAME????
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