Saturday!

professorscience

What are y'all doing on this rainy day?

One of our best friends is coming to town (and bringing me kolaches!!!) and we're going to have a Valentine's dinner and talk about how much we miss Andy.  I really wanted to take my dogs for a walk, but I'll have to wait for this rain to go away.  

MarieSD

We're having a party tonight, so I should be cleaning the visible areas of the house. (H is at class all day today.)

What I actually am doing is cleaning/de-wallpapering random cabinets in the master bathroom. Fun fact: Apparently in the 80's, people thought it was a good idea to wallpaper even the inside of wood cabinets. Or maybe just the people that built/first decorated our house.

angelsong21

We are going to look at one or two houses in Plano this morning.  My brother's b-day is on Valentine's so we are doing his family b-day dinner tonight.  I have a HUGE test on Tuesday that I also need to read and study for.  :-/

ktwed1

I don't usually have Saturdays off and the house is empty, sooooo I'm going to hybernate for a couple hours and than get a much needed massage this afternoon. My FI and I are going out tonight to celebrate a late Valentine's Day. I might do some laundry in there somewhere.

winechic25

Just got home from Jazzercise and headed out with Matt, my dad and step-mom to the Old Home Suoply House in Fort Worth, which I can't wait for. Tonight, Blue Fish and a night out in Grapevine! And...we're already 4 episodes into Revenge, it ROCKS, and even Matt loves it!

crash2729

I just finished taking a test that I'm pretyt sure I bombed. 

Today we'll unpack and maybe I'll do some shopping!

cwaggoner07

More drama this morning involving FI's ex stepmom. Is it too bridezilla to just tell everyone that unless they want to contribute to the wedding, we can invite anyone we please (including Joe Francis)?

crash2729

Why are you inviting the ex-stepmom to the wedding? 

Does she have a big bond with FI?

cwaggoner07

FI's parents divorced when he was 2, and his Dad got full custody, for reasons I still do not know, and may never know (and I'm perfectly fine not knowing because I think it is a VERY touchy subject). His dad quickly remarried, and they were married from the time FI was 3-17. His dad had 2 more kids with her, and she had brought in kids, so it was a mixed family for sure.
Apparently some bad stuff happened in those 15 years between his mom and his stepmom and the two HATE each other. I've only met the ex-stepmom once, and she was very warm and happy to meet me.
His mother is in the picture now, and lives in Frisco, so we get together with her occasionally. I went to visit her one day when FI was out of town just to chat and I happened to mention that the ex stepmom was invited and she flipped out on me. I was horrified, as my parents are still together, and the whole divorced parents thing is very new to me, and I just don't really know how to navigate such hatred among adults.
She is saying if the ex stepmom is invited, then she won't go.
Well, I got a nasty email from FI's younger sister, who lives in Australia, that if her mom (the stepmom) isn't invited then she's not going. Which I don't even know how she got that idea, but apparently it upset her enough to make an international call to their dad.

The thing is, FI has always been adament from day 1 that she should be invited, and I totally agree. She RAISED him while his mother was off getting married and remarried and remarried.

Ultimately, I just don't know how to handle all this. His mom has been married 6 times, and his dad 4. And he is so embarassed about it (I think there were a lot of affairs on both sides multiple times), that he never talks about it and I really just don't know what the rules are.

UGH sorry that turned into such a vent, I'm just so upset by it all. I know the only way to truly honor FI's family is to respect his decisions and stand beside him, which is what I will continue to do.

crash2729

If FI wants her there she needs to be invited. 

Call his moms bluff on not going if she is invited. 

roseofdeborah

This might be more of a flame since I missed yesterday, but my landlord decided to kick us out as having my fiance spending time with me was a breach of contract along with having a friends cat over for two nights. So I spent yesterday finding a new place and today moving in! Must be fun lol. Oh well in the end this place is much better anyways, and doesn't care about my fi hanging out or me borrowing a cat.

roseofdeborah

And I agree, after reading your story I think that his step-mom should be invited. That's a big part of a persons life and in the end it's your wedding and his mom is only having a part in it. I'm sorry your having to go through that!

cwaggoner07

Yeah, I mean, FI wants her there 100%, and I agree, so I guess we just go forward as planned.

My mom's best friend is a divorce attorney and she told me once that you always have to love your kids more than you hate your ex. I just can't see how grown adults who haven't seen each other in more than 10 years can still hate each other more than they love my FI.

ktwed1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_saturday-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:431a0c6c-8e62-4610-ae38-d93fe222ad33Post:ae496d86-25ff-45f1-a130-2746594d1e5f">Re: Saturday!</a>:
[QUOTE]If FI wants her there she needs to be invited.  Call his moms bluff on not going if she is invited. 
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]

I agree on this one. She did raise him and the Mother needs to grow up and be an adult and think of her son not her own feelings. If she doesn't go it will probably save on the drama at the wedding. Sorry you have to deal with this.