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Charity Donations
We've recently decided we will donate to different charities after the wedding in honor of our guests. Were going to have different charities labeled on vases then each guest will put there name on a piece of paper & after the wedding we will donate to places people chose.
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[QUOTE]We've recently decided we will donate to different charities after the wedding in honor of our guests. Were going to have different charities labeled on vases then each guest will put there name on a piece of paper & after the wedding we will donate to places people chose.
Posted by UCcc1086[/QUOTE]
Your wedding is not a fundraising event.
I thought it was sweet...and it lets your guests be involved, which is nice.
Go for it!!
[QUOTE]If you would like to make a charitable donation I fully support that. Do it on your own time. And if you want to use the money you would have spent on favors go for it. Favor are not required. Just skip it all together and quietly and humbly make your donation(s) on your own time. No need to show it off or pretend like you are doing your guests a favor.
Posted by jelybeancg[/QUOTE]
This. You're not doing me any favors donating money "in my name" to a charity that I probably don't agree with. I donate to the charities I donate to for good reason.
If you want to make a donation, just don't make it on wedding time and don't make your guests do it for you. That's meaningless.
[QUOTE]Why are you getting charity involved with your wedding if you clearly don't even have a favorite charity that's near and dear to your heart? <strong>AND you're not even paying for the donation. </strong> If you want to make a donation, just don't make it on wedding time and don't make your guests do it for you. That's meaningless.
Posted by mcskatcat[/QUOTE]
Yes she is. She said the guests would put their name in a vase, then she and her husband would make the donations.
[QUOTE]Why are you getting charity involved with your wedding if you clearly don't even have a favorite charity that's near and dear to your heart? AND you're not even paying for the donation. If you want to make a donation, just don't make it on wedding time and don't make your guests do it for you. That's meaningless.
Posted by mcskatcat[/QUOTE]
All of these charities are very personal for me & my fh. That is why we chose them & listed them. I was just trying to get some general feedback. WE are PAYING for the donation. We just wanted the guests to choose which charity we donated to in there honor because they mean different things to others.
Personally, I don't want anyone donating ANYTHING in 'my honor'. But that's just me. It's also misleading since your guests names won't actually be associated with the donation unless you literally break it up so that you make 43 different donations to charity X and 17 to charity Y, etc.
She's donating to charity and wanted some assistance!!! Put it in perspective
[QUOTE]Honestly people, it's not like she's asking "Which guest should I murder by the end of the night...Help me choose" She's donating to charity and wanted some assistance!!! Put it in perspective
Posted by telk0184[/QUOTE]
We are. The guests' perspective.
[QUOTE]Honestly people, it's not like she's asking "Which guest should I murder by the end of the night...Help me choose" She's donating to charity and wanted some assistance!!! Put it in perspective
Posted by telk0184[/QUOTE]
Tiered receptions, A&B lists, "Adult Only" printed on the invitation and honeymoon registries aren't murder either. I suppose we should just say "This is fine even though your guests are going to think you're rude and/or tacky as all hell."
My FI and I will be donating to Susan G Komen For the Cure because my mother is a breast cancer survivor and the cause is something that my family actively supports. We will be giving out bookmarks that explain to our guests that we have made a donation in their name. Since bookmarks are reusable I guess the actual bookmark could be considered the favor, but either way it's my wedding and I think it shows my guests where I place my value.
If you want to have guests tell you which charity they would like the donation to go to, maybe you can type out and frame an explanation to place on the table with the vases so your guests understand where you're coming from. Since you're wedding is about you, technically you are donating on your own time!
Happy planning
[QUOTE]At the end of the day I think it comes down to the fact that this is your wedding. Favors are not a requirement and are often left on the table or discarded right after the wedding. If you would like to donate to a charity in lieu of giving out chocolate, almonds, or "love beans" I say go for it! My FI and I will be donating to Susan G Komen For the Cure because my mother is a breast cancer survivor and the cause is something that my family actively supports. We will be giving out bookmarks that explain to our guests that we have made a donation in their name. Since bookmarks are reusable I guess the actual bookmark could be considered the favor, but either way it's my wedding and I think it shows my guests where I place my value. If you want to have guests tell you which charity they would like the donation to go to, maybe you can type out and frame an explanation to place on the table with the vases so your guests understand where you're coming from. Since you're wedding is about you, technically you are donating on your own time! Happy planning :)
Posted by Summer G[/QUOTE]
Susan G. Komen is the absolute last charity I would be donating to if you really care about breast cancer research. Only 20 - 25% of the money reaised actually goes to research. The rest is used to pay their staff (the CEO makes about half a million a year), their lawyers who are trying to sue for copyright infringement whenever an organization uses "for the cure" in their slogan, campaigning and advertising.
Do you see what me mean when we say that even charities you would think everyone supports can wind up offending people? Make your donation, but don't advertise it.