Favours for the women only?

lindsay5432

I have people telling me that the bonbonierres (favours) are only for the women.  I don't mind doing them for everyone, would it be really weird to do that?

McKenna2012

I have never heard of that. 

mgietler76

I don't think you should thank your guests by excluding the men. If you choose to do favors please include everyone!

FayeValentine69

I've never heard that, and I think it's pretty rude for anyone to plan favors with only their female guests in mind.

SeasonalFavor

I agree I don't think you should exclude the men.

lindsay5432

Ok, I did some research and I guess this tradition started with giving the women a small piece of the wedding cake (usually fruitcake) to take home, so that they could sleep with it under their pillow and dream of the man they were going to marry.

graysquirrel

It may have been that way in years past, but nowdays guests are given favors equally. 

colstj1

I've also never heard of that, and I think you should include everyone who attends your wedding if your do favors.

twilight.rose

Ditto PPs. I've never heard of this tradition. If you opt to use favors, you need to provide them for all of your guests.

FutureMrsSheeler

Give everyone a favor.

MistyEyeBride

The cake tradition is from the origins of the groom's cake.  So, maybe that's the precursor to favors?  Sorry, I'm big into traditions and their origins now that I'm planning my own wedding, so I love this sort of thing.

However, I agree that favors should be for all the guests.  I guess if you had something that was women only that you just loved, you could just find something more guy-oriented to go with it and do half of each?

VintageBrideWedding

I have never heard of that either!