Favors
Are favors tacky? -correct post!
First off, sorry about the double posts, I had an old Knot acct that I forgot about but apparently remembered because I logged in under it. Anyways, I put a bunch of planning info into this new one I made yesterday so it's the only one I will use. Just making this note because I dont want to come off as a troll....
Im helping a friend plan a wedding, she is in NYC and all the feedback she is getting from friends is that favors are tacky. The exception is food from local bakeries i.e. fancy cupcakes, cookies etc but people will toss "keepsakes".
She was thinking about doing a charity donation but apparently this is a tacky fad??? IDK what to tell her or what is considered tasteful since I didnt have a wedding in the states. Do people really dislike favors or is this a NYC thing? (No offense NYC brides!)
What favors would you want to recieve? Is the donation thing tacky? I think it would be nice to do something but now I'm a little lost as a "wedding planner" (I use that term loosely).
We could use a little advise so thanks in advance!
PS is there a way to preview and edit posts before submitting?
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Re: Are favors tacky? -correct post!
The only way I know of to preview the post is to just submit it, take a look, and then if anything needs editing, you can click "edit" just below the post.
I look at the donation thing this way: my FIL donates to a charity that builds houses in Haiti. Everytime he donates, he does it in our (me & FI, SIL & BIL) name. Everytime he donates we get mail about his donation. And everytime I get that mail, all I can think is that it comes off very "look at me! Look what I did!" I don't think FIL donates to anything without tying it to someone else's name, and I think it's for showy reasons, not for good charitable reasons. That's why people don't like charitable donations as favors.
I think people were right in saying that a specialty food is best. I personally don't like it when there are M&Ms or other regular candy, but a special cupcake or cookie or a local treat is great, in my book.
Favors aren't required, so either eliminate them entirely, or do something edible. And remember that even some of the very best favors will get left behind, unless you are giving out $5 bills.
[QUOTE]I don't think that the idea of a favor is tacky, but there are some favors that are inherently tacky - koozies with the bride and goom's names and wedding date (or anything with name and date), picture frames from the dollar store...you get the idea. Anything that says "I had to get a favor but didn't want to spend a lot of money, so here you go..." Tackiest of all, in my opinion, is the donation favor, which says "I took the money I was going to spend on your favor, and gave it to someone who needed it more than you do. But I'm still calling it a gift to you. Aren't I a good person?" Favors aren't required, so either eliminate them entirely, or do something edible. And remember that even some of the very best favors will get left behind, unless you are giving out $5 bills.
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</div><div>THIS. It's probably better to not give favors at all then to give something obviously cheap and tacky (and, unless you have a small guest list or a large budget, you will probably fall in the cheap range).
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For instance, if it was an outside reception there could be mini bags of rice or bubbles you choice that the guests can use to "send off" the love birds when the party is over. That why they still got something but didn't have to take it home. Be creative and think what can we use this for?
[QUOTE]First off, sorry about the double posts, I had an old Knot acct that I forgot about but apparently remembered because I logged in under it. Anyways, I put a bunch of planning info into this new one I made yesterday so it's the only one I will use. Just making this note because I dont want to come off as a troll.... Im helping a friend plan a wedding, she is in NYC and all the feedback she is getting from friends is that favors are tacky. The exception is food from local bakeries i.e. fancy cupcakes, cookies etc but people will toss "keepsakes". She was thinking about doing a charity donation but apparently this is a tacky fad??? IDK what to tell her or what is considered tasteful since I didnt have a wedding in the states. Do people really dislike favors or is this a NYC thing? (No offense NYC brides!) What favors would you want to recieve? Is the donation thing tacky? I think it would be nice to do something but now I'm a little lost as a "wedding planner" (I use that term loosely). We could use a little advise so thanks in advance! PS is there a way to preview and edit posts before submitting?
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</div><div>I dont think Favors are tackey i am makeing edibale ones in a beach theme and wedding colors and mini bucket candles whicha re also beach themed. I think favors arnt tackey. i am makeing mine myself.
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